Things You'll Need:
- Patience
- Understanding
- Compassion
- Love
- Time
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Step 1
Patience is the first thing a person needs to try and regain or reestablish trust. Once the trust in a marriage is broken, it cannot be restored overnight. It can take years for something so precious to develop again. Trust has to be earned and it may not happen as fast as a person would like it to. Therefore, I stress the importance of having lots and lots of patience when it comes to this issue.
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Step 2
Understanding the way your spouse feels after the trust in your marriage has been broken is also important. You also have to try and understand how the person who broke the trust feels. Everyone's feelings matter in a marriage, however; the person who broke the trust has to provide reassurance and expect that he/she may not always get to do what they want to do. Especially, if it involves an activity where there are other men/women present, like in a bar. In the first place it is not ok to go to those places without your spouse, because then you are asking for more problems. Compromise and work the issue out together. Remember that the most important thing is restoring the trust in your marriage no matter what it takes.
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Step 3
Show compassion to each other when it comes to the trust issue in your marriage. Broken trust is a sensitive matter and will not be restored if there is no compassion. Make sure your partner knows that you respect and understand how they feel. There is no room for pride in your relationship or being cold hearted to the situation.
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Step 4
Love each other as if there is no tomorrow! Your marriage is worth more than anything in this world and if you are reading this article, it means you are making a valid effort to make your marriage work. It does not matter what you go through, because as we said in our vows, "For better, or worse," so we can not give up on love just because things get hard. I know this is easier said than done, but if a husband/wife has an affair and repents and wants to do right by you, who are we to condemn them and not give our husband/wife a second chance. Afterall, God gives us second chances all the time. Don't worry, because if you have faith your marriage will only grow stronger through love!
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Step 5
Lastly, regaining or reestablishing trust takes time. As I said before, it may take years before you trust again. This is ok, because we are only human and like I said, trust is very precious. If you have patience, understanding, compassion, and love, time won't seem to matter so much and soon all wounds will be healed!
