How to Break up With a Guy Nicely
While you are going through different relationships, you will have to break up with guys from time to time. If relationships are hard, breaking up is even harder. The best way to handle a break up is to do it amicably, without anger. That is so much easier said than done, but it will definitely make your life easier in the long run.
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How to Break Up with a Guy Nicely
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Make sure you really want to break up and aren't doing it out of anger or spite. People sometimes play games, and one game that some women play is to break up to make a guy "act right" or "treat them better." This will cause resentment and most likely backfire. If you have an issue, talk about it. If you want to break up, break up.
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Don't break up with an audience. It's a personal thing that should be done during your personal time.
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Be open and honest about why you want to break up. Don't be overly blunt, though. This is a good time to be nice with your words. Since you are the one doing the breaking up, you are in a position of power. The guy you're breaking up with will feel vulnerable and maybe even blindsided. Be gentle.
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Be firm. If he gets upset and starts to beg or plead, which some guys may do, stand your ground. If you want to break up, there are reasons why, and you shouldn't allow yourself to be talked out of it. Don't allow yourself to be persuaded to continue a relationship you want to end.
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Don't try to be friends. You may want to keep the guy around, especially if he's a really good person, but that is not a good idea right after a breakup. Walk away from the relationship completely. Give you and him time to heal. If after a lot of time has passed and you two can be friends, fine. But be very careful being friends because things can quickly go from simple to complicated.
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Tips & Warnings
Be honest but not cruel. Always consider the other person's feelings.
Only end a relationship if you truly want it to end. Think before you break up with someone.
Breaking up can be emotional, but don't do it in anger, you may regret it later.
You should never break up with someone just to prove a point.
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jon87401
Dec 04, 2010
empress82, email me at jonathan_87401 at yahoo dot com. this is jon from millionaire passions. thanks...j -
sdwriter68
Jun 24, 2010
Great tips--especially about not breaking up out of anger or spite. It can become a regret!
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Ashia Sims
Jan 03, 2009
Thanks for your comments, guys! I agree empress82 that being friends with an ex right after breaking up can definitely complicate things and make it hard for you to truly move on. I understand what you're saying Advice1990 but if you read the entire last step, you will see that it says give it time before you try to be friends. Some people use friendship as a consolation prize and as what has happened with empress82, things get complicated quickly. I agree that under the right circumstances, a friendship can develop right after a relationship but that phrase "under the right circumstances" is very conditional. What were your right circumstances?
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Ashia Sims
Jan 03, 2009
Thanks for your comments, guys! I agree empress82 that being friends with an ex right after breaking up can definitely complicate things and make it hard for you to truly move on. I understand what you're saying Advice1990 but if you read the entire last step, you will see that it says give it time before you try to be friends. Some people use friendship as a consolation prize and as what has happened with empress82, things get complicated quickly. I agree that under the right circumstances, a friendship can develop right after a relationship but that phrase "under the right circumstances" is very conditional. What were your right circumstances?
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Advice1990
Dec 22, 2008
oh for pete's sake. the last step is utter bull crap. i'm sorry, but it is. if you wanna stay friends with someone, you can, but under the right circumstances. say u break up with the guy because u and him are MUCH better as friends, like me and my ex, then freakin stay friends with him. otherwise, leave it a while.
