Things You'll Need:
- Good quality bondage rope
- Surgical scissors
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Step 1
Talk to your partner. If neither of you has ever experimented with any sort of bondage play before, rope bondage may not be the ideal place to start. On the other hand, if you both enjoy restraints of various sorts, rope bondage is one of the most versatile options. You should be comfortable having open, honest discussions about your fantasies and desires with your partner.
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Step 2
Set safe words. A safe word allows either partner--especially the one in a submissive position--to stop the scene or activity with only a single word. Moreover, it also allows him to freely express himself by saying no or stop while continuing the activity if desired. Many people use red, yellow and green as safe words, meaning stop now, slow down or check in with her. You can also use a nonsense word that is not apt to come up as part of the role play, like spaghetti. If you will be gagging him, consider having him hold a cloth, ball or other item to be dropped as a safe word.
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Step 3
Learn how to tie a variety of knots using your bondage rope. Using the right knots to tie your partner will protect her skin and ensure that you have created a situation that is safe and not apt to cause injury. A French bowline knot is ideal for actually tying him to a bed. Practice tying these knots outside of the bedroom to avoid embarrassing or uncomfortable situations. See the link in our Resources section for tying instructions.
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Step 4
Tie only her arms up the first time you play. This is a whole new experience, and you need to take your time to make sure that both partners remain comfortable and happy. Diving in head first is not the way to experience bondage!
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Step 5
Use whole body rope bondage after you have experimented with partial bondage. In this scenario, you can tie up both hands and both feet. This makes the submissive partner very vulnerable. A clear bond of trust needs to exist for this to happen.
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Step 6
Be safe. Any sort of bondage play, including rope bondage, should be safe, sane and consensual. You and your partner should be sober for any bondage activities. Be sure that you have appropriate first aid supplies on hand. Keep scissors handy in case you need to free the submissive partner at a moment's notice. Surgical scissors are a better choice to prevent the possibility of injury.
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Step 7
Take care of each other. After care is a critical part of any bondage play. Either the dominant or submissive partner may find himself euphoric, weepy or overly emotional. Unexpected reactions are not uncommon. Both partners should be prepared to provide appropriate emotional support. Allow time and space to process any feelings that may come up after rope bondage experiences.
