How to Ease Your Preschooler's Separation Anxiety

Starting preschool is a monumental milestone for your little one -- and for you. It can be difficult, though, when your preschooler has separation anxiety. Even if he loves school, he may cling to you and cry when you try to leave him at the classroom door. Here are some coping skills from the experts on minimizing separation anxiety when you drop your child off at preschool.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Do let your child know you are leaving (don't sneak out), but make it short and sweet. Don't linger if he starts to cry and cling to you.

2. Allow your preschooler to bring something with him that brings him comfort, such as a favorite stuffed animal or family photo.

3. Prepare your child ahead of time by telling him what to expect while you're gone and when you'll return. They won't understand if you say, "I'll be back at 2:00," so say something like, "Mommy will be here after snack time."

4. Keep your own anxiety to a minimum. Even if your heart is breaking, don't let your child see you upset. He'll just have another reason to cry, too! Know that your preschooler will most likely settle down a few minutes after you leave.

5. Work with the teacher to establish a routine and coping skills. Perhaps the teacher needs to give your child a little extra attention when he comes in or allow him a little time to himself.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't be overly concerned about separation anxiety. This is a very normal occurrence and actually a healthy sign that your child is well-bonded to you.

[momoftwingirls]

on 8/26/2009 Great tips Susan. I have some more stuff I need to write about on my blog about how my twins have been doing in preschool. 5 stars.