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How to Recognize The Signs Of An Abuser

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Recognizing the signs of an abuser, at an early stage in the relationship, can save you from potential harm. At first, the signs my be difficult to recognize, but as time goes by, the abuser will eventually let his guard down. Here are some signs to look for in an abuser.

Difficulty: Easy
Instructions

Things You'll Need:

  • A keen eye
  • Ability to recognize early signs of abuse
  1. Step 1

    Jealousy: The abuser will show unnecessary jealousy. He will monitor your daily activities, by asking you your whereabouts. He may search your personal belongings, such as your cellphone, emails, etc.

  2. Step 2

    Possessive: He will get upset if you visit your family or friends. He will try to turn you against your family, by making you feel as if they hate you.

  3. Step 3

    Blame it on love: If you complain about his bahavior, he will try to cover it up by saying, that he is behaving this way because he loves you.

  4. Step 4

    Cruelty to animals: An abuser doesn't like animals. He can't stand to be around your pets. Animals in his care may be neglected, abused or abandoned.

  5. Step 5

    Blame game: Everything negative that happens in his life, he blames someone for it. He rarely wants to take responsibility for his actions.

  6. Step 6

    Destructive behavior: An abuser will destroy your prized possessions. He will destroy your clothing, claiming that the clothing are inappropriate to wear.

  7. Step 7

    Disrespect for women: An abuser will degrade other women in your presence. He will always talk negative or derogatory things about women.

  8. Step 8

    Criticism: Your best will never be good enough for him. He will criticize your weight, the meals that you prepare or anything that you do.

Tips & Warnings
  • As soon as you recognize any of these signs, slowly break off the relationship.
  • Observing some of these signs, does not necessarily mean that a person is an abuser.
  • Don't accept these behaviors has normal.

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nancys123 said

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on 9/30/2009 Good info on recognizing the signs of an abuser. Family members can abuse too. 5*

oneloved said

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on 9/14/2008 Very important information! All women should be on the lookout for this!

vikki9 said

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on 9/12/2008 Recognizing an abuser is important - the earlier, the better.

Susanh said

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on 9/12/2008 Great job writing on an important topic. 5*****

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on 9/12/2008 These are excellent tips on trying to identify a potential and or abuser

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