How to Determine if Your Boyfriend is Mr. Wrong

He is Just Not That Into You

If you've been ignoring the little voice in your head that is telling you something is just not right in your relationship with that "great" guy you've been dating for the past six months, that he might be playing/using you until something better comes along, then this article is for you. If you recognize any of these behaviors in your guy, it's time to buy a new skimpy bikini and plan a girls only trip to the Bahamas.

Things You'll Need

• Self Respect
• Desire to Find Mr. Right

Instructions

1. The relationship is off balance. Meaning you are the one who takes more initiative to get together. You call him more often than he calls you. He seems indifferent and unconcerned when he hasn't seen you in over week, while you are already missing him. You tell him that you've missed him and instead of telling you that he missed you too, he tells you that he was busy with work or gives you a general excuse as to why he couldn't get together with you. It's not that he couldn't get together; it's that he didn't want to.

2. You find yourself talking about future plans with him, he nods in agreement but never mentions future plans of his own that include you. That's because more than likely his future plans don't include you.

3. You see him about once a week if that, and more importantly most of your dates end in sexual intercourse. A man who is serious about you will see you more than once a week and when he does see you, he will not try to rush the date in order to get to the sex. Regardless of what is going on in his life, he will make time for you. Or if he is really unable to see you due to a family emergency, or a crisis at work etc. he will inform you and then keep you updated.

4. He calls you in the middle of the night telling you that he can not get to sleep unless he is sleeping next to you. Tell him to take an Ambien and give you a call the next day, because what he really wants to do is come to your place and mess up your clean sheets. If you notice that he generally calls you between 12:00 and 2:00 am, beware. You are not his girlfriend you are his booty call.

5. He often flakes on you. The two of you've agreed to get together on Fri. night. An hour before he is to pick you up he calls and tells you that his dog has been vomiting all day, that his car broke down, his aunt Gretchen whom he's really close to is sick, or any other lame excuse like that, know that he probably has plans to a) see someone else, or b) meet someone else. Not only that, but he has no respect for you or your time and doesn't really care if you are in his life or not.

6. A month into the relationship he tells you that he is not interested in having anything serious right now, and is just looking to have some fun. Believe him. What he means is that he's not interested in committing to you. Men are not afraid of commitment. They are however terrified of committing to the wrong woman. If a man wants to establish a more serious relationship with you, he won't announce that he has issues with commitment because he won't want to scare you off. He may take his time, be a little more cautious but he will commit gradually and voluntarily. You won't have to nag/scare/force him into it.

7. If you notice one or more of the behaviors described above, it's time to reevaluate your relationship.

Resources

• He is Just Not That Into You
• Is he Married?