How to Get Your Girlfriend to Come Back

If you've recently had a breakup, you're undoubtedly in a lot of pain. No breakup is easy, but it's particularly hard when you know that you two should really be together. If you want to get back together with your ex-girlfriend, there are some things you can do to improve the chances of that happening. Remember that your girl loved you for who you are, so you should feel confident. The process of reconciling with an ex can be a long one, particularly when painful issues need to be discussed. Be patient and know that she is worth it.

Difficulty:

Moderate

Instructions

1. Examine the reasons for the break up. When you pinpoint the issues in the relationship that led to its demise, you can then take responsibility for your own mistakes. If you don't establish what went wrong, you won't be able to make sure it goes right when you get back together.

2. Ask a few trusted friends and family members what they think. It can sometimes be difficult to be objective so it helps to have an outsider's opinion. Ask for opinions on what you could have done better in the relationship. Listen and learn from the advice you're given.

3. Change your behavior. If your girlfriend left because of a particular action you do, such as excessive drinking, gambling or smoking, stop doing that behavior. If she left because of how you treated her, make an effort to improve in those areas. If you need to seek a support group, do so.

4. Contact your ex-girlfriend, telling her that you miss her. Do this in a simple way that is free from any pressure. If she feels like you are hounding her, she's likely to move even further away. Instead, drop her a short note, just letting her know that you are thinking of her.

5. Be a good friend to her. Care about her as a person more than you do about getting back together. If you only talk to her about getting back together, she'll feel like you are only interested in what's in it for you. Instead, show her that you truly want to be her friend. Listen to what she has to say and be there for her.

6. Keep your cool. Even if you're desperately pining for her, keep your emotions in check. She'll be more likely to come back to you if you give her space. Don't let relationship talks monopolize your conversations with her. Show her the guy that she fell in love with initially.

7. Make yourself desirable to her. If you had let your appearance slide while you were dating her, it's time to step it up again. Start working out and eating better. Dress up a bit when you see her. Make an effort to look good and she'll remember what she's missing.

8. Show her that you care. Bring her flowers, drop by her house with her favorite coffee drink and open doors for her. Don't smother her with gifts and affection but show that you care about her in little ways. She'll notice these things and they'll make her feel good.

9. Remain consistent in your honest approach with her. She'll respect your steadiness, particularly because these things take time. Once she sees that you aren't shying away from the difficulty of a reconciliation, she'll realize that you're the man for her.

Tips & Warnings

• Keep your life active. You need more going on in your life than simply winning her back. She'll find you more attractive if you lead a full life.

• Don't fall back into your old habits. Learn from your prior mistakes.