How to Break up With a Long Distance Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Long distance relationships require more planning and attention than ordinary romantic arrangements. The same level of care must be used when the breakup of a long distance relationship is necessary. End an undesirable relationship without causing your boyfriend or girlfriend undue stress.
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Instructions
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Plan your approach. Take the personality of your boyfriend into consideration as you choose a breakup method. Use the popular “it’s not you, it’s me” at your own risk. List reasons why you want the relationship to end to help solidify your stance. Since the long distance between you decreases the chance of surprise visits, you’ll have adequate time to plan a successful exit strategy. Avoid answering phone calls or other correspondence until you’re completely sure you want to end the relationship.
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Set a date. Contact your girlfriend to arrange for an appropriate time to talk. This is especially important in long distance relationships since you may be unaware of everyday obligations. Leave a message requesting a specific talk time and date if your girlfriend isn’t answering her phone. Choose a time that allows you to have the maximum amount of privacy.
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Clear your schedule. Consider the talk time set in stone once it’s established. Keep your personal calendar free from appointments. Reschedule any conflicting events. You may lose your nerve if the discussion is postponed.
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Make the call. Bring your list of reasons as you find a quiet, comfortable location. Muster up the courage to dial your boyfriend’s number for the final time. Greet your boyfriend in a calm tone to help ease into the conversation. Answer his questions about the perceived awkwardness of the scheduled call.
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Drop the bomb. Explain that you want to end the relationship. Let your girlfriend hear your well thought out reasons for the breakup. Listen to any appeals or protests your girlfriend may attempt. Remain calm and collected as you define the terms of the breakup. This includes plans for future communication. Make a clean break to help wean yourself from the idea of being in the relationship.
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Tips & Warnings
Dodging calls isn’t the best way to handle relationship issues.
Never assume the relationship is over without a formal end.
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atarigamer01
Dec 20, 2008
My gf just broke it off and dropped the bomb on me ,after 4yrs, a couple weeks ago over the phone. I live in Riverside, she lived in Orange County. It was somewhat of a drive, but ok. The only problem was, I was doing all the driving, and could only see her on weekends. I have to work, and just recently now she got a job, coincidentally right before she broke it off. She was not really good at dealing with anything, so I'm not surprised in a way. What pisses me off, is we had a great weekend, laughed, talked, had some lovin, then a couple days later, bomb drops. I dont get it. -
atarigamer01
Dec 20, 2008
Hey, I'm not really supportive of long distance relationships. It depends on what you consider long distance. Like, in other words, if youre more than 1 or 2 hours drive from your partner, then thats long distance. I mean, if you must break it off over phone, do what you have to do. But I'm a firm believer in doing it in person. Atleast give them that last look at you. It depends on the nature of the relationship. Like how long was it, was it mutual, etc. Their are a lot of factors which you really didn't describe. Personally, I wouldn't take your advice, atleast not in the same way. But then again, long distance relationships are just a no no in my opinion. My gf just broke it off and dropped the bomb on me ,after 4yrs, a couple weeks ago over the phone. I live in Riverside, she lived in Orange County. It was somewhat of a drive, but ok. The only problem was, I was doi
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atarigamer01
Dec 20, 2008
Hey, I'm not really supportive of long distance relationships. It depends on what you consider long distance. Like, in other words, if youre more than 1 or 2 hours drive from your partner, then thats long distance. I mean, if you must break it off over phone, do what you have to do. But I'm a firm believer in doing it in person. Atleast give them that last look at you. It depends on the nature of the relationship. Like how long was it, was it mutual, etc. Their are a lot of factors which you really didn't describe. Personally, I wouldn't take your advice, atleast not in the same way. But then again, long distance relationships are just a no no in my opinion. My gf just broke it off and dropped the bomb on me ,after 4yrs, a couple weeks ago over the phone. I live in Riverside, she lived in Orange County. It was somewhat of a drive, but ok. The only problem was, I was doi
