Things You'll Need:
- Willing to take the risk
- A positive attitude
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Step 1
First of all, relax! Asking someone out on a date is not a new concept and everyone has been or will be rejected at least once in their lifetime. Worst case scenario is that the other person will say no. Millions of people have already experienced this scenario and they came out of it just fine. So, take a deep breath and realize that no matter what the answer is, you’ll be okay and life will go on.
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Step 2
In most cases, it is pretty obvious if a person is going to say no (based on previous encounters, behavior, and body language). If you are interested in someone, but unsure as what their response would be, work up to asking them out on a date instead. Have a couple of conversations to get to know the person better, ask for their phone number, or see if he/she would like to meet up with you for a cup of coffee. Depending on their responses to these things and their behavior, you may be able to better determine their interest in you. It’s also a great opportunity to represent yourself and make a good impression on the other person.
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Step 3
If it would make you feel more comfortable, rehearse how you want to ask that certain someone out on a date. Having a thought out plan as to how you are going to approach the other person and ask them out can put you more at ease and may help you from getting tongue-tied in the process.
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Step 4
Find some time to be alone with the person. Asking someone out in a private setting, rather than a public setting, can help ease any fears you have regarding rejection. If you ask someone on a date and they turn you down, you may not feel quite as embarrassed about it if the two of you are alone and not surrounded by a group of people.
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Step 5
When you are ready, ask that person out on a date. If you have rehearsed some kind of statement in your mind, then get to it. The easiest way to ask someone out is to just say, “Would you like to go out with me?” Also, don’t be afraid to compliment the other person…throw a little something in there that tells them why you want to date them; such as “I always have such a great time with you and I wanted to know if you’d like to go on a date with me.”
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Step 6
If the other person says yes, that’s great! Starting planning the date! At the very least, you may want to make sure that you have a set time picked out before you ask the person; that way, you can actually make more detailed plans. Once the other person has said yes, ask him/her if she's available on such and such date.
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Step 7
If the other person says no, try not to take it as a hit to your ego. That is sometimes easier said than done, but just because a particular person isn’t interested in dating you, it doesn’t mean that you are any less attractive or date-worthy. People are attracted to others for a variety of reasons, but a lot of times it is strictly a matter of preference. Don’t let the rejection make you feel any less of yourself. Just stay positive and try again with someone else who interests you.
Comments
AlishaV said
on 1/11/2009 I've never asked anyone out on a date, but will definitely follow your tips of I do.
ebnickiea said
on 9/12/2008 great dating advice
purrfect1969 said
on 9/12/2008 Great tips.
vikki9 said
on 9/10/2008 If the person says 'no' you may want to try again another time. Something may shift for them after they realize you are interested. Thank you for this supportive and encouraging article.
klnygaard said
on 9/9/2008 thanks