How to Break up With Someone Gently

Sometimes relationships don't work out as they should. You are dissatisfied or the magic is gone. You still care for the person, but you want to be in a different place at this point in your life. Let us see how to break up with someone in an amicable way.

Instructions

1. Begin with some consideraiton. You cared about his person. You probably still do. You do not want to hurt his feelings, so take some time to plan things out. Don't let it be too sudden. Start to drop little hints that all may not be perfect. This does not necessarily mean complaining. A few well-placed wistful comments can produce the desired effect. Your may not want the same things as your other half. Small differences can take on great importance. Be philosophical. Try to bring out those points of disagreement. Can you see yourself living in your boyfriend's favorite city? Do you share a commitment to your girlfriend's career goals?

2. Make arrangements for a serious talk. You want to do this in person. Pick something your girlfriend likes to do, or choose a restaurant that she likes. Make sure the location has no particular associations for your relationship. Don't let it go out the same way it came in. Be prepare to discuss those differences again. You should both be on the same page. Be kind, and talk about her in an affirmative way. You don't want them to be seen as critiques of the relaitonship. Rather, you want them to be seen as distinguishing goals. Be on your best behavior. Compliment her on her hair.

3. Create an atmosphere of warmth. Reminisce about the good times. Mention how you always loved the way he made you laugh. Tell him how you always loved that story. Discuss things of meaning to your partner. Let him know you are proud. You are happy for him and his achievements. Keep things focused on a past that leads to the present. The future should now be absent from your conversation.

4. Give your ex a remembrance. If you have a picture he always liked, give it to him. If he admired a memento of yours, present it to him. There are no hard feelings. Your ex should realize that you are breaking it off. Tell him you want to remain friends. Ask if you could call him from time to time. The end of the relationship should appear as a mutual decision. It may not be what each of you wants, but it is the best choice. You have both grown and will continue to share fond memories.