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Step 1
Find your lady. The first step is obviously to find the woman who interests you. However, with so much of society being geared toward "thin is in," it can be difficult to know where to meet bigger women. Often plus-size women will not feel comfortable mingling with a group of women who are thinner because many of them do not feel they can compete. Fortunately, there are now many nightclubs and online dating sites geared toward bigger women. These are a good place to start looking.
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Step 2
Ask her out. Unfortunately this is easier said than done. Try striking up a conversation based on your surroundings. For example, if you are in the bookstore pick up a book and approach her to ask is she has read it. Let the conversation evolve naturally and then ask her to have coffee with you.
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Step 3
Listen and take mental notes. Ask about her hobbies and interests and try to plan a date around one of them. This will show her that you are a good listener. Women find it romantic when you take the time to get to know them.
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Step 4
Avoid making assumptions. Do not assume that just because she is bigger that you automatically need to take her to a buffet to have a successful date. This is a cardinal sin of dating a plus-size woman.
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Step 5
Treat her like a woman, not like a plus-size woman. Essentially big women are just that, women. You do not need to explain to her how you just love big women. Keep size out of the equation if you expect to be dating her for long.
