Things You'll Need:
- Water-based lubricant
- Anal beads
- Anal dildo
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Step 1
Get informed. Your sphincter is just a muscle--it contracts and expands depending on the situation and relaxation level. It has gotten a bad reputation with the advent of AIDS and taboos associated with anal play. Let's reiterate that anal play is a safe practice.
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Step 2
Take your clothes off and get comfortable with the temperature and relax a bit. Move your hand around to your anus and slowly make little circles around the outside of the hole itself so that your fingers rubs over the puckered part. You may tense up a little at this point, but it's important to continue doing this until you relax somewhat. Next, get your lubricant (remember to use water-based lube) and put some on your index finger and middle finger or whatever hand you don't use for masturbation. This allows your usual hand to be free for manual stimulation once you're comfortable with insertion. Once your fingers are lubed, the best bet as your first time is to lay face down on your bed. This practice relaxes all the muscles in your stomach and legs, allowing your anus to open a little more freely. Sliding just your index finger in first and slowly will probably feel weird, but there should be no pain. If pain occurs, use a smaller finger and push it in slower. Feel around, but be easy--the linings are somewhat fragile to fingernails, and scratches could result in infection. Enjoy your first trip. Let your finger warm up inside of you. Fantasize about something that really turns you on.
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Step 3
Don't be scared, just go slow. Put your lubricated middle finger and slide it out then back in slowly. There should be no friction. The lube does the trick at preventing this. Again, there should be no pain. Do this until you feel comfortable with it in there and are confident you're enjoying it. Now put both fingers in. This will stretch it a little more and prepare it for the real fun. Do this exercise for a least a couple of minutes, letting your fingers warm up and letting your anus become accustomed to the size.
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Step 4
Let the fun begin now that your anus is stretched and warmed up. Start with the beads. These vary in size and color and are exciting to hold and lube up. Stand up and bend over onto your bed or chair with your ass facing into the air. Put a little more lube on the outside of the hole (the puckered part) and slide the beads in slowly. You'll probably want to wait a few seconds between each bead, as they increasingly get bigger. The more often you do this, the more exciting it will become. Soon you'll be able to slide the beads effortlessly in and out for a very pleasurable experience. In your first adventure, though, go easy on yourself and just enjoy that you're learning. If you want, masturbate while the beads are inside you. Try wiggling around a little and see what happens. The same technique can be applied with the anal dildos. These come in a variety of shapes and sizes, but make sure that your first one is small and made expressly for anal play. Once you're more comfortable, you can move up to vibrating dildos that are shaped just like a penis, if desired. Often, no masturbation is required in this play. The sphincter is a nerve center in your body and can stimulate so many things at once. Girls that cannot achieve orgasms otherwise often can with anal play. Check the Resources section below for a few sex toy sites.
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Step 5
Experiment. Use different positions, motions, light candles with different aromas, make increasingly louder sounds even. Have a partner do the things for you and see what they think. It can often be just as pleasurable for them as it is for you.
