How To Apply the Law of Attraction for Finding a Mate

The Law of Attraction dictates that we will draw into our life what we think about, whether good or bad. This law, while open for debate, is still a good springboard to pursue lasting romantic happiness. However, remember that negative thoughts will keep a romantic partner at bay.

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need

• Positive Attitude

Believe in Number One before Two Becomes Possible

1. Believe in yourself before you even begin to worry about finding a mate. If you haven't taken time to get to know yourself, you will never have the confidence required to find lasting love. This could mean going on a trip to Prague by yourself, learning a foreign language, earning your degree or simply meditating for a few hours in your room on a regular basis.

2. Imagine yourself in a happy relationship. This doesn't have to be hearts and flowers, marriage and sunshine. Just imagine yourself happy; imagine the kind of person that you want and deserve to be with. Close your eyes, you can do it.

3. Breathe deeply, and imagine how you'll respond to this person when you meet them. This isn't rocket science, but it does take a leap of faith and a calmness of spirit.

4. Focus your energy on yourself now: posture, physique, attitude and demeanor. You must focus your best self toward the type of mate you wish to attract (tall, dark and handsome).

5. Heed others' perceptions, but don't be ruled by them. Start by stepping outside yourself now. Evaluate your effect on other people. Are you bossy, loud or messy? Or are you simply in charge, fun-loving and carefree? Ask several friends to honestly tell you your best and worst traits. If you see themes, pay attention to this. If three friends are telling you you're a poor listener, you have some work to do before you're relationship-ready.

6. Charge ahead toward your fulfilling life, but not toward overtly looking for a mate. Charge toward the things that will fulfill you: travel, a better career, volunteering as a tutor in Harlem. Throw a dart at the map and then go there, figuratively, but also literally. When you are fully engaged in life, others will naturally be attracted to you, men and women. It will be in this state of full engagement that you are most apt to meet that man or woman of your dreams. She will be someone you meet in line at the airport as you're lugging up your third bag from the metro. Or, the guy who just fixed your cable box after it blew. Maybe even the woman at the ice cream parlor whose eyes match the new flavor. Like they say, you'll know it when it hits you, and it will definitely hit you. Just be ready for it!

Tips & Warnings

• Meditate when you can; imagine lasting happiness.

• Keep negative thoughts at bay.

Resources

• Singles articles to get you motivated