How to Determine if the Man You're Dating is Married

Is He Married?

In this article you'll find signs that will help you determine if the man you're dating is married.

Things You'll Need

• Self Respect
• Willingness to Face the Truth

Instructions

1. You mostly communicate with him via email and all of those are signed with a nickname, just his initials or a term of endearment. If you do speak on the phone he is usually on his cell phone and calling you anywhere between 8:00am and 5:00pm. This is a good sign that he is calling you from work. The best way to test him is to ask for his home phone number and speak to him in the evening after 6:00pm when any potential spouse is likely to be around. Beware if he makes excuses that he doesn't actually have a home phone (this is easily verifiable as you'll see below) or is really busy in the evening.

2. Most of your dates occur during the day. It is much harder for a married man to slip away in the evening and/or during the weekend. He may do that once in a while, but not two, three times a week like you would expect. Ask him to see you on a Fri. or Sat. night and take note of his reaction. Beware of any excuses or rainchecks. A man who is available and wants to date you will see you any day of the week.

3. Invite him to spend the night at your place and vice versa. If the local motel is as familiar to you as your own bedroom, beware. It is next to impossible for a married man to spend the night anywhere other than next to his wife, unless she is out of town or travels a lot. If you've never been invited to his place, he more than likely doesn't want you to see pictures of his happy family and realize that he does have a home phone and even a white picked fence.

4. Invite him to go away for the weekend. If he starts making excuses as to why he can't, even if you're letting him know way in advance, he is married and there is no way he could leave his wife for the weekend without her getting suspicious.

5. If all of your conversations revolve around sex, meaning you're either reminiscing or planning the next steamy encounter beware. If most of your dates end with sexual intercourse you are more than likely his piece on the side. A man who wants to get to know you is interested in more than your panties.

6. Have you met any of his friends? He mentions them, yet you've never been introduced to any of them. A guy who is into you will want to show you off. He will want to introduce you to his friends as a way of allowing you into his life and helping you to get to know him better. Ask to meet his friends. If he tells you that he doesn't actually have time for his buddies he probably doesn't, but only because he is juggling you his mistress and his wife and kids.

7. Does he show any affection in public? If not, he is probably worried that someone he or his wife know will see you. Granted, some guys are just not into public displays of affection but even they will make the effort if it's important to you. Don't let him fool you ladies and pay close attention to where he's taking you. If the two of you frequent secluded little restaurants and bars in the middle of nowhere he is probably worried about being spotted with you.

8. Does he have a circle of lighter skin around the base of his ring finger? If he does and you know all about his divorce then you're safe. If not, he is probably married but hiding the ring in his pocket, glove compartment etc. This is the least important sign as it is the most obvious. Many married men choose not to wear their wedding bands at all (interferes with work etc.) so the absence of lighter skin around his ring finger does not mean that he isn't married. The other signs discussed above are more important and more reliable in your quest to determine if the man you're seeing is married.

Resources

• How to Behave When you Find out the Man You're Dating is Married