How to Blow HER Mind In Bed - Sexually Satisfy a Woman

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Determination
Patience
Partner
Love

Step 1

Help her self esteem. If a woman's self esteem is low she will have trouble relaxing enough to have an orgasm. She'll be worried about how she must look to you etc., instead of concentrating on the lusty task at hand. What can you do to help her self esteem? Be aware that she may have such issues and help her through them. Be it her body image, negative experiences with men from her past, whatever it is, make sure that she is comfortable enough with you to discuss these obstacles to her total sexual satisfaction. Meaning, get involved. If she needs to hit the gym go with her. If she needs to see a therapist to deal with more difficult problems offer to accompany her without any judgment.
Step 2

Stimulate Her Mind

Stimulate her mind. I think that should be self explanatory. Provide her with good conversation and actually listen to what she has to say. Have a life of your own, hobbies, interests etc. Contrary to popular belief a man needs more than two big things. It is not all about your **** and bank account, granted for some women it is but, we are not talking about hookers, (whom you pay to leave and have no interest in satisfying) we are talking about your wives and girlfriends. Have some personality, interest in growing as a human being and reaching your potential. Don't be a loser that is.
Step 3

Can You Hear Me Now? Good!

Communicate. She has fantasies too, do you have any idea what she fantasizes about? If not, ask. Ask often, because fantasies change and evolve. Tell her you want to make sure she has an orgasm each time and would like her help in making that happen. If your woman can't open up to you (the man she claims to love) see step one.
Step 4

Arousal

Never neglect foreplay and arousal. I can't stress this enough. Kiss her. Kiss her lips, neck, shoulders, back, buttocks, the back of her knees, earlobe, suck her toes, you get the picture. Now take your time. If you need pliers to open up her vagina and push your way in you've neglected the foreplay. A woman should be aroused and naturally lubricated allowing you to, you guessed it, slide right in. If you've missed the arousal step, you have no chance in hell of making her orgasm and blowing her mind in bed. Women like receiving sexy notes too. They like knowing that the sight or thought of their beautiful breasts, killer legs, brilliance etc. is enough to drive you to destruction or incessant masturbation. Let her know how attractive, beautiful, smart etc, you think she is.
(NOTE: find out how your woman likes to be touched. For example never bite or pull on her nipples, slap her clitoris, we've all seen this in porn, unless she has explicitly told you that she likes that. Your safest bet it to go slow and be gentle.)
Step 5

G-Spot

For god's sake, learn a woman's anatomy. Unfortunately most women have had plenty of bad experiences. A man is going down on them and hitting every spot except the clitoris. Or he has both hands between her legs and plenty of lighting but can't locate the **** or the g-spot. There is only one way to know if you are touching, licking or sucking where you should be; ask her. A clitoris is a bump located about an inch above the vagina at the top of the vulva, just underneath protective skin called the clitoral "hood" (or prepuce). Now that you know the general location of the clitoris (the only organ in a woman's body that exists solely for sexual pleasure) why should you ask? You should ask your woman because she may need more or less clitoral stimulation. Perhaps she doesn't like direct contact but likes to be touched or licked around the clitoris. Or she does like direct contact, maybe even with a vibrator set on high. Since you may not know, make the effort to find out. The Gräfenberg spot, or G-spot when stimulated leads to high levels of sexual arousal and powerful orgasms. If you're one of those men who doubts the existence of the G-spot let me assure you from personal experience that it exists. To locate the G-spot, you must seek during an aroused state, because during arousal the G-spot fills with blood and swells greatly in size allowing you to feel it with your fingers. Meaning, insert two fingers into the vagina palms up and see if you can feel it, also ask your woman to let you know when you've successfully located it. It may be easier if she is laying on her stomach and you are exerting pressure downward. Actually exert pressure, be a little rough, and of course pay attention to her response.
Step 6

Make an effort to last more than 30 seconds. I don't mean to be insensitive, but if you bust a nut faster than a cockroach scurries away when you switch the light on, you my man need some help. Deal with premature ejaculation. Let go of your ego and deal with it. Have your woman help you. Believe me, if she loves you she'll be more than happy to help you alleviate your anxieties and will not judge you. If you feel yourself close to orgasm when you've only just began to have intercourse stop and stimulate her orally or manually for a little while, until the urge to ejaculate has subsided. While you're stimulating her try to breathe deeply and calm yourself down. This is the start and stop technique. If you two trust each other, you can also try avoiding intercourse all together for a little while. Instead, concentrate on other forms of sexual stimulation; try erotic massage or oral sex. Concentrate on building more intimacy as opposed to just having sex. Take away the pressure to perform and just enjoy your sexuality, all aspects of it.
Step 7

I would like to reiterate that if you are a loser you will never blow her mind in bed. A loser is a man who has no life, future, interests or personality, is fat but demands that his woman rival Gisele Bundchen, is an abuser of drugs, alcohol etc., can't even buy her dinner, is a tool, has low self esteem but goes to great lengths to cover that up instead of facing it head on. I could go on, but I must end this article at some point.