How to Avoid Confrontation

While there are some people who seem to gravitate toward trouble, generally, most try to avoid situations where there will be confrontation. This can be frustrating, and is not always an easy thing to do. However, if you are careful with what you say, how you act, and whom you associate with, you can keep confrontation to a minimum.

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Mind your own business. If you spend your time worrying about your own affairs, you will avoid the drama that comes along with gossiping and interfering in other people’s business. Chances are, if you are discussing other people’s business or talking negatively about them, the news could get back to them, and they may be angry enough to confront you about it. Not only could this give you a bad reputation for talking too much, it could also result in fighting or other violence.

2. Be careful who you talk to. Just like discussing other people’s business could result in confrontation, so can discussing your own. Some people tend to be judgmental, and may want to tell you what to do about your personal affairs. If they do not see things from your perspective, the manner in which they give advice may be offensive to you. In addition, some people choose to gossip. So the things you believe you are telling them in confidence may end up common knowledge among people who you would not normally choose to tell your business. Only talk to people who you know that you can trust. Avoid associating with people who seem to always be in the midst of confusion.

3. Do what you say you are going to do. Going back on your word can definitely result in conflict. If someone is counting on you and you are not dependable, it is likely to cause tension and ultimately, a possible confrontation. If you feel that you cannot stand by your word, don’t lock yourself into the commitment.

4. Agree to disagree. Sometimes, people will fight to the end to prove themselves right. Between strongly opinionated people, this is a sure recipe for disaster. Individuals are entitled to their own opinions, and you shouldn’t let a person push your buttons to the point of anger or arguing just because they don’t agree with you. When it looks like you will continuously bump heads with another person, agree to disagree, and let it go.

5. Maintain control of your emotions and learn to be a peacemaker. Avoid using harsh words and snappy comebacks. Sometimes this may mean biting your tongue or not speaking your mind, but sometimes this is the best method in keeping the peace when dealing with other people, especially if they are difficult to get along with.