How to Save a Young Marriage

Nothing could be more satisfying to highly compatible couples than the loving moments shared during the first few years of marriage. On the other hand, nothing could be more depressing to other couples than a young marriage full of antagonism, dissatisfaction, frustration and resentment. The truth is young marriages needn’t be a war zone. This is because with patience, sacrifice and plenty of give and take, a young marriage can indeed be a bed of roses.

Instructions

1. Communicate frankly. Expressing your inner thoughts and feelings in a frank and honest manner will, often, evoke a positive and caring response from your partner. As the saying goes – “silence is golden,” but this will not apply to a young, marital relationship. Lack of communication may confuse your mate and keep him or her guessing about your true intentions.

2. Lend a sympathetic ear. Marriage is a partnership built on the principle of give and take. Therefore, listen intently, considerately and patiently when your partner expresses his or her inner thoughts, feelings and fears. Your partner’s input is just as important as yours and will affect every decision you make in your future life together.

3. Be rational in your demands. Irrational demands, be they personal or financial, which your partner may not be in a position to fulfill, can lead to inconclusive arguments and frustration. Find a way to reach some middle ground to your partner’s and your own satisfaction. Compromise, is perhaps, one of the solid platforms for a blissful, young marriage.

4. Give your partner enough space. Restrictions to the way your partner thinks or acts will only lead to resistance. Giving each other enough space will strengthen the bonds of love and trust between you and your partner.

5. Respect your partner. Your partner deserves just as much love and respect as you do. Therefore, never hesitate to respect and appreciate your partner’s views, contributions and the many little things he or she does during your life together.

6. Demonstrate your love and care. It’s the little things you do that will reassure your partner of the love you have for him or her. A surprise gift, a bouquet of flowers for her, a "thank you" or "sorry" note, a frequent hug or kiss are the little ways to show you care.

7. Humor your partner. The popular saying – “laugh, and the world will laugh with you … cry, and you will cry alone” – holds true for young marriages. Laughter and humor are important ingredients for the success of your young marriage. Laugh together during good times and bad and you’ll discover that every little hurdle you face can indeed, be surmounted with a smile.

Tips & Warnings

• Share the daily household chores with your partner.

• Always apologize when you know you are wrong.

• Do not attempt to prove you are right when you know you are wrong in an argument. One-upmanship is an attitude that will lead you nowhere.

• Do not discuss your personal problems, or complain about your spouse with family or friends. A frank, one-on-one with your partner is the ideal way to settle an issue amicably.