How to Understand a Man

Member

By Wesley Stefan
User-Submitted Article

Article Rating: (19 Ratings)

Understand a Man

It is no great mystery that most men are set in their ways. To most women, a man's behavior and logic appear to make no sense to them. Although no man can change their entire personality with the snap of a finger; It is possible to come to grips with that person if you actually understand their thought process.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

A man you do not understand

Step 1

Be direct and straight forward. Men are not psychics! Women tend to drop little "hints" here and there hoping that their perfect man will read their mind and make their dreams come true. Unfortunately, this is not how life works. If you want your man to clean up the kitchen or put his clothes away, be direct and ask him to. You may think, "Well why should I have to ask him what to do?", but you should find after just asking him, that he will no longer be annoyed like he was by your "beat around the bush and cross your fingers" tactics. Men are very simple in a sense that they obey direct orders and like to be answered with a simple "Yes" or "No".
Step 2

You love shopping, he loves watching sports. You love getting your nails done, he loves playing cards with his friends. Get it? Create boundaries between each other that you don't violate, as this will taper down on the unnecessary confrontations("You spent HOW much!?).
Step 3

For everything that you complain about to your man, he probably has a very good reason to argue back. For instance, the toilet seat. He needs it up, you need it down. He has every right to complain and whine about the toilet seat being down everytime he goes to use the bathroom, just like you have the right to complain about it being up.
Step 4

During an argument, stick to the issue at hand. A man does not want a chronological timeline of every time he messed up prior to the current argument. If the subject is even worth arguing about, use the facts at hand in the present moment as your fuel. Men tend to become extremely irritated when women dig in the past to use in the current confrontation("Oh yeah??? Well two weeks ago you forgot to put the dishes away!!"). You will find that when you do this that he actually cares LESS about what you're currently angry about. Also realize that men do not always think before they speak. Allow them a chance to rephrase what they said and you may find that he never had ill intentions to begin with.
Step 5

If you cannot handle the truth when asking him a question, don't ask it. It's not his intention to go out of his way to hurt you, but 99% of the time, men DO mean what they say. So if it's an answer that you're rather positive you won't be happy with, don't ask for it. If he asks you what is wrong, and you simply say "Nothing", than the case is closed for him. Again, this indirect guessing game should not be played, because when he finally figures out that you really are still angry... Than he will be, because you didn't just tell him so to begin with.