How to Ask a Girl You Don't Know to Prom
Nothing will make a teenage boy sweat more than asking a girl out on a first date, especially if it's to the social highlight of the year: the prom. Honestly, fellas, the young ladies are just as nervous about getting a date for this yearly soiree as you are, so keep that in mind when you take that giant leap to pop the big question. Above all else, be honest, and never try to be something or someone you're not. Keep it real.The following article will give you some helpful tips on how to approach your dream date and make it the best night of the year.
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Spend some time watching and paying attention to every little detail concerning this young lady. You have to find out what interests her, whether it's watching old MGM movies, shopping, bowling or cooking. If you're really bold, talk to some of the people you see her hanging out with and ask them about her likes and dislikes. Ask about her favorite music/songs, colors, cars, flowers, foods, etc. This is all information you will need to plan a perfect prom night.
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Think about where you want this relationship to go. Is she merely someone you want to have a casual friendship with, or do you want something more meaningful? This will help you determine whether to use a relaxed approach or something more formal and detailed.
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Break the ice by introducing yourself. Use your surroundings to come up with interesting things to talk about. For example, if you take a class or two together, you can strike up a conversation about an upcoming exam or last night's difficult homework assignment. Don't rush it; take your time enjoying each other, and before you know it, the conversation will flow smoothly and painlessly.
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Get creative and come up with several options for asking her out. Make it fun and light-hearted, and don't take yourself too seriously. Turn a fun game into a personal prom invitation, if this appeals to you. One suggestion is to play a game of Jeopardy using the prom as a theme. Another would be to act out your prom invitation during an energetic game of Charades. You can do this with just the two of you, or with a group of friends.
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Ask her out in song. If you're not a good singer, get a group of your closest buddies together and serenade her. If none of you can sing, hire a professional singing-telegram service to woo her. These services are surprisingly affordable and make a huge impression. Include your personal prom invitation and a thoughtful gift, such as a cuddly stuffed animal or a drawing of her that you created (only if you possess drawing skills). Other great gift ideas include a big, tasty cupcake or sweet roll; a box of chocolates; a gift certificate for a manicure and pedicure on prom day; and/or a bouquet of her favorite flowers. Do this for someone you hope to get close to in the future, but try not to overspend. Homemade cards and gifts are just as nice as the store-bought varieties, and make a much greater impact.
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Always be yourself. Girls can spot a phony from a mile away. Chances are, she's noticed how you've been watching her and has been watching you, too, but she's going to play it cool. She's waiting for you to be a man and step up. Show confidence, always dress and groom yourself nicely, and use correct grammar, because she's paying close attention to how you carry yourself. She wants you to look nice and be calm, cool and collected, so that when the two of you strut into that prom, you'll be the talk of the whole school.
Remember that every girl is different. Some girls like guys with a direct approach, while others want to be pursued and romanced a little. This is why it's important to do your homework first and find out what she likes and dislikes before introducing yourself.
Use your talents and personality to come up with different ideas to ask her out. If you're a music student or play in the band, invite her to come hear you practice. Once she gets in the room, surprise her by playing or singing a beautiful song in her honor. If you're an art student, make a drawing or painting of her. This will really knock her socks off! If you're a good writer or a theater student, write or act out a poem or play in which she's the star.
Start saving money well enough in advance so that you can have a nice prom stash. Don't overspend when trying to get her attention, because you'll also need money to get a haircut, a tux, shoes, etc. You'll need to purchase a corsage for your date on the day of the prom as well. Get with your parents or guardian and figure out how much you'll need before the prom and on the day of the event.
Don't fumble when you ask her the important question. Practice what you're going to say ahead of time and make sure that you're comfortable. Now is not the time to forget her name or start stuttering, throwing up or hyperventilating. Remember to always be confident and well-groomed, and to have fresh breath!
Do not under any circumstances ask her to the prom over the telephone. Prom is a sacred, monumental event that only happens twice for most people, so make everything about it unforgettable.
Don't hesitate too long before asking your special lady to the prom. You'll know the date of the event early in the school year, so beat all the other guys to the punch by asking her out early, especially if she's a popular girl.
Don't let fear of being shot down or rejected stop you from asking someone to the prom. Remember, this is something we all go through, and rejection, unfortunately, is a normal part of life. Keep your cool and listen to her as she explains her reason(s) for turning you down. Be mature. You have no reason to get angry and become verbally or physically abusive. This will only make matters worse and earn you a terrible reputation. You're young, handsome, smart and talented, so if this young lady misses out, there are plenty of others out there. Have fun with it and keep that strong sense of humor!
