Things You'll Need:
- God
- Flexability
- Communication skills
- Humor
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Step 1
In my opinion God is the key to a successful marriage first or second but we will talk about other factors as well to watch out for. First of all you need to know if you can handle being a step parent this adds a whole dimension to a second marriage from the day to day or visitation care of the child to financial support.
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Step 2
Second talk,talk,talk about the ex-spouses(both if you are both divorced) be sure of where your boundaries are and that you can live with that. This has caused so many couples to have troubles. Not having clear boundaries of the ex-spouse. This person especially if there are children involved will be a part of your life.
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Step 3
Finances: Be sure you are on the same page there. How much support is paid for children or is being paid. Where these should go in the family funds. Are you both going to have to work and are you going to share your finances? I believe when you are married you share everything including your finances but everyone is different and you need to have these cards out on the table before hand.
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Step 4
How do you/they handle stressful situations? It is easy to bypass this in the period that all is hunky dory no matter if this is your first or second. But as most people look for a totally different person the second time around you may be blinded if this person is different from your ex-spouse. Make sure you know how they handle stress because there will be a lot of it.
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Step 5
Be clear what roles you expect of each other. It is surprising how this gets side stepped. You need to know what the expectations are of the other person as far as spouse,parent,step-parent(a whole other article)
Comments
ellischristina said
on 4/3/2009 Excellent. You did a very good job in pin pointing specific areas that should be addressed before the new sparks fly. Well done.
joanhaines said
on 1/22/2009 These are great areas to examine before getting hitched for the second time.