How to Provide Constructive Feedback

Constructive feedback is key to any relationship.

Whether it's in an employment situation or with your child, there is no doubt you'll have to provide constructive feedback at some point in your life. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is the way humans learn and grow, so it is important to be to the point but also very respectful.

Things You'll Need

• Patience
• Good communication skills

Instructions

1. Start with the positive. Reinforce the things that the other person is doing well before criticizing anything.

2. Only give negative feedback if it is something that the person can work on or change in the future. There is no point in giving negative feedback on something that the other person has no control over.

3. Be as specific as you possibly can when giving constructive criticism. Explain exactly what needs to be done differently and how it can be accomplished. Don't be vague in your feedback. If you can't be specific, don't give the feedback.

4. Understand that while you may be particularly strong in a certain area, this may be a weakness for others. Don't be too quick to provide negative feedback when someone is doing something outside her comfort zone.

5. Make sure the constructive feedback is a two-way conversation. Feedback is always more constructive when both parties are able to speak their minds.

Tips & Warnings

• Give the feedback in a timely manner so it is fresh in their mind.

• Don't be sarcastic when giving constructive feedback; it will undermine your points.

References

• Cabrillo College: Giving Constructive Feedback
• Tufts University School of Medicine: Effective and Constructive Feedback