How to Adopt a Domestic Newborn Baby as Fast as Possible

You have your current approved adoptive homestudy and you are waiting for the baby of your dreams. You have your newborn baby nursery set up and decorated. Your heart's desire is to adopt a newborn baby domestically. You have also heard about families waiting years for a birthmother to choose them to parent her baby. Is there a way to be chosen more quickly so you can have your baby sooner? How can you adopt a domestic newborn baby as fast as possible?

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Current baby adoption homestudy
• Register with adoption referral services
• Adoptive Website
• Networking with adoptive families and professionals
• Internet Access
• Join free adoption groups

1. 
   Register on line with adoption scam groups avoid scam artists

   Avoid wasting precious time that you could be holding your baby on a potential birthmother or scam artist who has no intention of placing her baby with your family. Join an adoption scam group such as the yahoogroup "Adoption Scams and Un-ethical Treatment" at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/adoptionscams. Stay away from anyone who says they are in Cameroon.

2. 
   Register with referral services

   Register with as many infant adoption referral agencies as you can. Most of these adoption referral services do not charge a fee or only charge minimal fees for registrations. You do not pay their "referral fee" until you have a match or a baby in your arms that they facilitated. So what do you have to lose? Here are some referral sites that allow prospective adoptive parents to register and look at their referrals. This list is not inclusive there are others, search on the internet and network with other adoptive families to find more. This is not an endorsement for any of these agencies either. Make many copies of your adoptive homestudy so you can send each adoption referral service about five copies. They send them out to any potential adoptive situations that meet your criteria for cost, gender, race, and exposures. http://littlebitofheavenadoptionreferral.com/situations.html
   http://www.heavensentadopt.com/situations.htm
   http://www.chask.org/waitingchildren.htm
   http://www.handstohold.com/opportunities.html
   http://www.hearttoheartadoptions.net/available_situations/available_situations.html
   http://www.spence-chapin.org/asapwaiting.html
   http://www.adoptionadvertising.org/adoptap/default.aspx
   http://www.adoption.tk/situations/
   http://www.abcadoptions.com/prosituations.htm
   http://www.adoptuskids.org/
   http://www.adoptamericanetwork.org/

3. 
   Have your adoption money lined up and ready

   Have your baby adoption financing lined up ahead of time and know your adoption budget. If an emergency placement is needed for a baby, you can act quickly and be parenting tomorrow if your money is available. Do not apply for situations that are not within your budget. A home equity loan might be an option for you. You do not pay interest until you actually borrow the money but it is approved ahead of time. The interest will also be tax deductible.

4. 
   Tell everyone you know

   Tell everyone you know that you are trying to adopt a newborn baby. Do you have teenage relatives? Tell them because some of their friends might become pregnant and choose an adoption plan. Tell your pastor, church family, family doctor, OBGYN, family lawyer, and your neighbors.

5. 
   Set up a myspace adoption page

   Set up a free myspace page or some other site with your adoption profile. Include pictures of your family and your desire to adopt a baby. Register with adoption information sites such as www.ouradopt.com

6. 
   Carry a cell phone

   Carry a cell phone and make sure you include your cell phone number on all of your adoption referral agency registrations. You don't want to miss that important call for your baby. Call or email the adoption referral services every couple of weeks to let them know you are still waiting and available. Sometimes it is the squeaky wheel that gets greased.

7. 
   Buy a fax machine

   Invest in a fax scanner so you can get your adoptive homestudy in on those last minute newborns that were not preplanned adoptions. You can buy a fax for less than a hundred dollars so it is worth the investment.

8. 
   http://www.amazon.com/Adoption-United-States-Reference-Professionals/dp/1933478209%3FSubscriptionId%3D1XFK01HK9NZWGPENWGG2%26tag%3Dadoundoneroo-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3D1933478209

   Study up on the effects of various prenatal exposures so you know in advance, what babies you are willing to accept. This will make your decision making process immediate. The more you are open to the faster your chance of placement. Are you willing to accept a newborn baby exposed prenatally to alcohol, cocaine, meth, or HIV to name a few? Are you open to race, gender, or physical anomalies? Taking time after a newborn is offered to your family may lose the baby to a family who has decided ahead of time.

Tips & Warnings

• Add to your adoption budget for travel, finalization, and birthmother expenses.
• Many agencies try to find rematch situations for families who experience failed adoptions.
• You must have an approved and current adoption homestudy to proceed with any adoption.
• Most agencies require a homestudy to inquire about situations.
• Adoption is a financial risk.
• Birthmothers can and do change their minds about placing their babies.
• A birthmother’s decision to parent is out of the control of the adoption agency.

Resources

• Foster care and adoption advice
• Parenting tips for busy parents
• How to Change Your Baby’s Diaper in Public
• How to Prepare a Baby Bottle in Public
• How to Clean Glass Bottles
• How to Breastfeed an Adopted Child Without Lactating
• How to Tell if You Are Being Scammed by Adoption
• How to Help an Infant With Pediatric GERD
• How to Care for Caucasian Type Hair When Transracial Adoption
• How to Adopt a Baby or Older Child for Free or Receive Reimbursement

[Fuller1972]

on 3/22/2009 Yup, fill out the paperwork and submit it ASAP. Schedule your home visits on the first available dates. Find a child you are interested in, that helps especially if the child is local.

[showpup]

on 3/22/2009 Really good adoption information. My husband and I are looking into adopting an older child, not a newborn but all adoption info is still appreciated. We are just now entering the stage of getting our homestudy done, which we are told will take about 3 months to do. Any article ideas for speeding that up?

[painthorse42]

on 11/19/2008 Great article~ 5*****

[ABC123S]

on 9/26/2008 Yes I agree, these are really great links!! Thank You. I also wanted to add one of my own which is the actual site that helped us adopt our baby girl Kharra. It's always easier as well if you already have a child in mind. Kharra is my husbands best friends daughter. Her mom passed away at birth and we decided to adopt her into our family. It took less time and less money and after years of waiting on our lawyer, this was the fastest processes ever! We hope it helps someone as much as it's helped us. May God Bless and keep your family.

http://www.rapidadoption.com/free_adoption_booklet.html

[acole]

on 9/2/2008 Great article. Very good resources. Thanks!