How to: Love Thyself
Love lies at the center of most religions and spiritual paths, and self-love is acknowledged as a key to personal development and fulfilling personal relationships even in secular society and the field of psychology. Although not all approaches agree on the path to self-love, some key practices offer a method for treating yourself with greater compassion, acceptance and kindness. As you develop self-love and learn to express yourself more fully, allowing others to love you, even the aspects of yourself you may not think are lovable, can enrich both your self-esteem and your intimate relationships.
Other People Are Reading
Instructions
-
-
1
Replace negative or critical thoughts about yourself with positive thoughts or an image that makes you smile. The simple practice of refraining from self-criticism and thinking better of yourself can improve your confidence and self-esteem. Although it may seem forced at first, make this a daily practice and it will become a habit.
-
2
Forgive yourself. As with forgiving others, this isn't about condoning wrong-doing. It's a matter of recognizing your faults and accepting them so you can move on. If you failed at something, made a poor relationship choice or hurt someone's feelings, think about what you learned and what you can change for the future -- and forgive yourself completely.
-
-
3
Practice honesty with yourself. Self-deception and a habit of not owning up to problems can damage your self-esteem. Make agreements with yourself and keep them. Keeping promises to yourself builds trust, just as it does in any relationship.
-
4
Take care of yourself. Treat yourself the way you'd take care of a loved one, such as a child or elderly parent. Practice good nutrition, exercise regularly and take time for stress reduction, such as spending time in nature, praying or meditating. If you keep meaning to take better care of your health and have difficulty taking action, pick two small goals, write them down in a journal and take action on those goals. For example, take a walk three times a week and eat more fresh vegetables and fruit.
-
5
Be gentle with yourself. As you take steps to change and treat yourself in a self-loving way, accept that you aren't perfect and some days will be better than others. Focus on the journey and making forward progress. Avoid being down on yourself when old habits re-emerge. Write about your progress in your journal and take time every day to make a note of things you're grateful for and set goals for your future.
-
1
Tips & Warnings
Self-love may require standing up for yourself and setting boundaries with other people.
Letting go of the past helps you to become kinder and more understanding toward yourself and others, accepting your faults as you would accept imperfections in someone you love.
Some people may be uncomfortable and even try to sabotage you as you improve your self-esteem. A qualified therapist or trusted spiritual adviser can provide support for your changes.
References
Resources
- Photo Credit Jupiterimages/Comstock/Getty Images
