How to Deal With Step Parents and Step Siblings

When a parent marries again, it can be tough on children, but it's especially tough when the new marriage comes with new stepbrothers and stepsisters. As a child, you might feel like you are losing your place within the family or that these new stepchildren are replacing you altogether. To deal with this challenging situation, parents should develop some guidelines and methods that help.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Understand that the presence of these new people in the house doesn't have anything to do with you. The stepparent and siblings are most likely just as unsure or nervous about the new living situation as you. They may act out these feelings of insecurity in different ways than you do.

2. Get to know these new family members. They will most likely be a part of your life for many years to come, so develop a rapport with them. You may find you have things in common with them, especially the stepsiblings.

3. Talk to them about how you feel. Honest and open communication can help everyone cope with this new living situation.

4. Stay out of their way. Sometimes the stereotypes are true, and these new stepparents and siblings are an absolute nightmare to deal with. In these cases, just avoid their presence as much as possible. If you confront them, it can only lead to turmoil and make your life tougher.

5. Consult a counselor or therapist. Sometimes it's best to get professional help and seek the advice of a person with no vested interest in the situation who can listen to your concerns about the new living situation.