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Step 1
Familiarize yourself with your company's policy. Many companies explicitly state their views on office romances, and knowing the rules can help you decide how long keeping your secret is worthwhile. If you're still testing the waters, you might not want to go public, but if things get serious or affect your work, you need to know where the company draws its boundaries.
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Step 2
Know your own limits. Maybe you can handle working closely with your romantic partner, and maybe you can't. Understand your own limits and don't put yourself in situations that could compromise the quality of your work or your professional reputation.
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Step 3
Keep your private life private in the office. Remember that whispered conversations, stolen glances, email exchanges and secret meetings are easy to catch when you're in the workplace all day. Don't assume that you can fool around on company time and get away with it, so leave your romance outside the office and play it cool while you're at work.
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Step 4
Be professional. One surefire way to keep your relationship a secret at work is to act like it doesn't exist. Do as great a job as always and treat each other the same way you treat all your other co-workers. Put work first at work and don't give other people a reason to question your behavior.
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Step 5
Avoid the water cooler. Don't participate in gossip of any sort, and don't offer a lot of information about any aspects of your personal life. If you don't give people an opening to ask or talk about your private affairs, they should soon move on to other topics of conversation. Keep your relationship at work a secret by staying aloof about all aspects of your life that aren't work-related.
