How to Express True Feelings to the One One Thinks is Just a Friend
It can be impossibly hard to be near a person whom you have feelings for and not be sure if you feel the same way. Well in order to alleviate your stress, here are some tips on how you can tell that special someone that you have some romantic feelings for them.
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Gauge what their response will be beforehand. Many people build up an infatuation with another person after not having spent that much time with them. This infatuation seems to tug at your psyche until you have convinced yourself that you must be in love with them. By gauging what their response will be, you are rationalizing in your own mind what their feelings are. If you think the advance might put them off, then your feelings may be better left unshared. Another example of this, is if someone is married or in a committed relationship.
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Determine when you should have the conversation with the other person. This is going to be different in a case-by-case basis, but the ultimate goal is to get both of you in a stress free environment where you have an ample amount of time to talk and discuss your feelings.
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Avoid making it sound rehearsed. Many times people rehearse what they're going to say to another person over and over to the point where it sounds absolutely passionless when it comes out of their mouth. Speaking from the heart and speaking from the moment will always have the greatest impact.
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Make eye contact with the other person. People respond to others who are assertive and confident in their point of view. With your friend, you are expressing that you love them or have significant feelings for them. Rather than shying away from those, say it with confidence.
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Listen to what they say back to you. It can be so hard to share true feelings with a friend, especially if you think you're in love. But what is even harder is listening to their response. After all, that is the unknown quotient of the equation. You must realize you may not hear what you want. However the upside is that if the other person does have reciprocal feelings, then the two of you get start getting to know each other with a whole new level added to your relationship.
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Assess the situation as the two of you move forward with your friendship and love for each other. After sharing such true feelings, there really is no going back. After all, you've stated it. Either the two of you will grow closer (because the other person shares those true feelings) or the two of you will experience some distance (if those feelings are not shared.) In assessing the situation, you are making sure that you do not continue to force something artificial between the two of you. A forced relationship is never a healthy relationship.
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Tips & Warnings
Let's face it, a little romance never hurts. Lighting a few candles, popping a bottle of champagne and putting on some soft music, usually makes the other person at least receptive to what you are about to tell them.
