How to Flirt with a Taken Man

Flirting can signify deeper feelings or just serve as playful banter between the sexes. Once you’ve chosen your target, it’s fun to see just what you’re able to get away with saying or doing. Although the situation can be complicated when the man in mind is taken, your flirting doesn’t have to end. Learn how to use your charms to continue your flirtatious behavior without causing too many waves.

Instructions

1. Study the man. Although men may be similar, they’re not all alike. Tailor your flirting to the individual tastes and desires of the chosen man. This is especially true when he’s taken, because the status of his relationship should also be considered before making your moves. Men in deeply committed relationships may not respond the same as men involved in casual flings.

2. Attract his attention. Dress your best to make him take notice of you, even if he’s trying hard not to take the bait. Wear clothing that highlights your strong points without looking like you’re trying too hard. A man in a relationship may feel too guilty to respond favorably to your advances if he thinks you’re actively trying to pursue him. The goal is to raise his interest in you and your behavior while remaining seemingly innocent.

3. Approach with caution. There is a fine line between flirting and harassment. This is especially true when the man is already taken. Since you may be putting yourself at risk for retaliation from his significant other, you must make sure your actions are subtle and easily explained if any adverse situations arise. Be careful not to flirt in front of people who may tell his girlfriend or wife about your actions.

4. Make him sweat. Compliment him on things that boost his ego. Offer to do things for him that “she” doesn’t do. Use negative comments he’s made about her to your advantage by denouncing her actions and making sure he’s aware that you’d never do those things. It is essential that you’re seen in a more positive light than she is, even if it’s not true. This will give him a justification for enjoying your flirtatious advances.

5. Gauge his reactions. Flirting with a taken man should be fun for him, not uncomfortable. Pay attention to signals he gives, such as avoiding you or staring at you too much. Increase your flirting as much as he can tolerate without attempting to ruin his relationship. Back off whenever he feels uncomfortable to save your own reputation as well as his feelings.