How to Get to the Second Date and more.

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Get to the Second Date and more.

The first date jitters are bad not to mention if it is a blind date but nothing compares to the apprehension of not getting the second date. The following tips will assist in clinching the second date and who knows maybe even more.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Will power
Motivation
Interest

Step 1

The pick up. When you arrive for the date, don't bring a bouquet of flowers. One simple flower states a lot more. Now don't be late. That just shows disinterest which is such a turn off. And don't be way early, five minutes good ten shows desperate. She may not be ready but that is a good sign because she wants to look good for you. Be patient, it will be worth it.
Step 2

Agenda. Movies are not the best. I am sorry but the first date is not movie material. Natural Born Killers was one, no second date. Mortal Combat: Annihilation, no second date. What were they thinking. About themselves? Anyways, choose a location of common interest. Roller blading was fun. I sucked, he knew how, lots of laughs definitely a winner. Out to eat is great, allows for conversation. This is how to get the second and more.
Step 3

Now conversation. Whatever the agenda this is your key. Let your date talk. You listen! I don't mean the nodding your head saying, "uh yeah" but really listening. Act like you are hearing it. Lean in, make eye contact and agree. Restate in a different way. If she says, "It really bothers me." Respond with, "I can see how it would." Whether you do or not. She will feel like you get her and will feel supported. Support and understanding Baby that is the way. Let her talk. This is how you will find out the most about her.
Step 4

Ask her questions about herself and what she likes to do. And listen. Be quiet and take it all in. From her statements you will derive a second date. Pick out something that may be of mutual interest or at least tolerable for you. And mention it. For example, "I haven't done that for awhile how 'bout we do that on Saturday." If you are paying attention and it is an interest you have a winner. And a second date.
Step 5

Now by the end of the date you have a ton of information. You know if this is really a person you want to see again. You have future conversation topics. And you have time to get to know more. Now don't call the next day. Speaks again to the desperateness. Call the second day. Firm up the plans. You are letting on to the interest but not being pushy. Once again listen! If a statement is made about the night prior, it is o.k. to agree, but don't start by saying what a great time you had and go on and on. Calm, fun, easy going and pay attention to the words. Your on your way.

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jetjock said

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on 9/9/2008 Good info, thanks!

deestew said

on 9/1/2008 Good info! I love the part about the desparate thing. I guess its all a part of the game. Guys shouldn't try too hard and women shouldn't make it too easy!! Personally I get worn out with the games but it comes with the territory. Thanks.