Things You'll Need:
- Confidence
- Good Attitude
- Realalistic Goals
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Step 1
ConfidenceFirst off, you need to have a little confidence. Asking a guy out isn't going to work, if you don't have enough confidence and self respect to not care if you are rejected. Remember your looking to meet men to start with not marry them, so being rejected by a guy shouldn't be a big deal to you. Just remember how many guys you have rejected in your life.
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Step 2
AmbitionNow, I've heard countless women say, where are all the good guys at, there's no good men left anymore, and yada yada yada. Well, have you ever tried going after a guy you want? Or have you just drifted through life dating guys that have asked you out? You might actually find that good man you seem to think that doesn't exist if you go after him when you see him.
Yes, I know you see men you wouldn't mind getting to know all the time, probably at least one guy a week. You see him at the gas station, grocery store, or where ever. But you might never get the guy you want, if you don't go after what you want. -
Step 3
Self RespectO.k.., you see a guy your really attracted to, your at a gas station, chances are you'll never see this guy again. What do you do? Rest assured, being a woman, this job will be a lot easier, than if you were a guy. For one, even if the guy isn't attracted to you, he will be so flattered that a woman is hitting on him, that he won't reject you. If he says he has a girlfriend, or is married, who cares, at least you'll feel better that you tried. That's not rejection, that's just a guy who is unavailable. You'll never find a man, that say's he has a girlfriend when he dosen't, to avoid rejecting you, the way that women do to guys.
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Step 4
Be realistic, but don't let that discourage you. If you see a guy you'd really like to get to know, but you don't think you have much of a chance with him. Go ahead and try anyway, really what does it matter. Don't ever hold a guy on a pedestal, and act like he is your dream guy, and you have no chance in hell with him, don't ever act like he is above you, and you would be lucky to even talk to him. No matter how attractive you find him, he is just a normal guy, with insecurities and problems like everyone else.
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Step 5
How do you approach a guy? Well before your walking up to him, to approach him, give him a few hints that your interested. Look at him, lock eye contact for three seconds, smile, or just give a little wave. Now he knows you have a slight interest, you might not even have to approach him, he might make his way over to you. Wait about 10-20 seconds after you have shown your initial interest, to give him time to decide if he is going to approach you. If he dosen't approach you, it dosen't mean that he is not interested, some guys are just as shy as you are about approaching a girl. If your the kind of girl that wants a take charge kind of guy, and he dosen't approach you, and that's a turn off that he's not secure at this time to make a move, then forget about it. But if you think this guy is too good to pass up, he might just be in a hurry, or maybe he's in his work out cloths and all sweaty, or maybe he made a run to the gas station in the early morning before he brushed his teeth. A guys confidence level will fluctuate through out the day for whatever reasons. Just know that even the most confident guys, are insecure at times.
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Step 6
Have a plan, for different scenarios. If your at a grocery store, and see a guy you want to meet. This place gives you a time and place, to walk around a few minutes and talk to the guy before you decide if he's even somebody you want to give your number to. If your at a gas station, everybody is on the go, so have a plan in place, maybe just introduce yourself, and ask if he would like to talk sometime, and exchange numbers. Make it short and sweet.
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Step 7
A final tip, just be yourself, act around a guy your interested, as you would around your brother, or a really good guy friend. Don't think about how attractive you find him when your approaching him, don't think about whether if he will accept or reject you. Just think that this guy is lucky that I'm going to hit on him. Think that you'll make his day, because you will. A guy on average will be approached by a girl once or twice a year. On the other hand, women are approached on a weekly basis, sometimes a daily basis. What's annoying to some women, is just the opposite to guys, and it dosen't happen enough.
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Step 8
A final tip, be safe, and use common sense. Make sure the guy your interested in, shows some initial interest in you also. If he locks eye contact with you, or smiles, or does a double take, your probably good to go.
Comments
yesterdaylady said
on 12/14/2009 I didn’t think, it could get any better, and it dose, thank you!
I love the points given in step five securing mutual interests. Such a bold truthful article.
Hope to be date soon or at least mingle again.
babyphatbrat said
on 8/5/2009 very good points
guppy6 said
on 2/17/2009 good job, but i was looking more for how to actually ask him....wat to say how to approach him ........more of the details...
guppy6 said
on 2/17/2009 good job, but i was looking more for how to actually ask him....wat to say how to approach him more of the details...
borgy21 said
on 8/24/2008 this information you have given outto people is good. me and my friend have tryed these steps adn tehy really work. i have been going out with a guy for 4 months now and my friend is now married just after 5 months. im just saying thast thisis good information and would recommend it to anyone that is ahving trouble with guys.