How to Get a Guy You Don't Like to Go Away

Just your luck?

The good news is that a guy is smitten with you. The bad news is that you are totally repulsed by him. How do you make it clear to him that you're not interested, in a way he'll understand?

Instructions

1. 

   Don't send mixed signals. You must be clear from the get-go. Make sure your "no" is a solid "no." If a guy asks you out and you don't want to go out with him--ever-- don't say, "Oh, I can't tonight, I already have plans." He will think it's merely an issue of bad timing and will ask you out repeatedly, trying to catch you on a good night. Instead, be completely blunt from the first request. "No, thank you. I appreciate your asking, but I am not interested in dating you." That may sound cold, but it's much kinder than stringing the poor guy along for months while he hopes he's going to win you over.

2. 

   Keep your distance. If you don't want the guy to think you like him, stay off of his radar. He will pursue you and will try to show up wherever you are. You must do the exact opposite, and try to avoid him at all costs. When someone is obsessed with you, he is single-minded in his desire to be near you. If you really want to be free of his attention, you have to be equally invested in keeping your distance from him. Eventually, he will realize that you are avoiding him and back off. If he doesn't take the hint and continues to aggressively pursue you, that's called stalking, and is a completely different problem.

3. 

   Don't nurture a lost puppy if you don't want to own a dog. If you see a sad and lonely guy and decide to turn him into a project because you feel sorry for him, expect that he is going to fall in love with you. He will see your kindness as an overture, even if you see it as a social experiment. I'm not advising you to not be kind to people, merely to make sure the recipient of your kindness understands you want to help him come into his own, but not date him. When a person hasn't had much recognition in his life, any attention seems like love.

4. 

   Don't say "no" too fast. Just because your heart doesn't skip a beat the first time you see a guy doesn't mean he's not worthwhile. Some guys have oceans of beauty just beneath the surface. It may be worth your time to get to know this one a little before you carelessly send him packing. Don't assume you won't like a guy just because your friends don't. Don't decide you don't like a guy just because he is unpopular. Get to know him on his own merits before you decide whether or not you like him.

Tips & Warnings

• If you want to be friends with a guy, but are not interested in dating him, make sure to properly communicate your intentions.

• If you are not initially attracted to a guy, get to know him and give him a chance. Some guys have their beauty on the inside, and it's worth digging for.

• Be blunt when you say no, but never be intentionally cruel.

• Don't send mixed signals.

• Don't take advantage of his feelings for you if you don't share his affection.