How to Catch a Cheating Partner

If you suspect your husband, wife or significant other is unfaithful, it can be hard to deal with everyday life. All you can do is wonder where your partner is and if he or she is telling you the truth. It can be difficult to catch a cheating partner, and devastating to learn that he or she is indeed unfaithful. However, the sooner you know the truth, the more quickly you can get on with your life and do what you need to do. Read on to learn how to catch a cheating partner.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Know the signs of a cheating spouse. Your partner may: be more critical and prone to fight; acting distant, not sharing time or feelings with you; have less interest in sex; start to dress more nicely or differently, buy new undergarments and color or change his or her hair.

2. Check your partner's cell phone bill. Is there an increase in minutes? Are there frequent calls to the same one or two phone numbers? Do these calls take place when your partner is supposedly in a meeting or some other activity that is keeping him or her away from home? If you are brave, call the number that keeps popping up on the bill and ask the person that answers, point blank, if and how they know your partner. If your spouse is having an affair, it's possible the other person doesn't even know about you and may spill the beans, or might want to split you up and so will tell you the truth.

3. Look at your partner's credit card and bank account statements, if they are separate from yours. Are there any unusual charges such as for a hotel room or florist. You may want to call these places and see what information you can find out, if any.

4. Tell your partner you are going out of town for the weekend on a business trip or to visit someone, but don't leave town. Instead, rent a car and watch your house from a safe distance. If your partner leaves, follow him or her and chances are you will find out anything you need to know. If he or she doesn't leave the house, wait and see if someone else shows up. Give them sufficient time to "get comfortable" and then walk in the house. You don't want them to be merely sitting drinking coffee, as your partner could lie and say it's an insurance salesperson or some other story. As difficult as it is, you need to catch them in some sort of act so that you can know for certain.

5. Ask your partner straight out. Your spouse may be looking for a way to confess, and just might tell you the honest truth.

Tips & Warnings

• Even before you are sure your partner is unfaithful, get into some counseling. If your spouse will go with you, great. If not, it will help you prepare for and deal with what you might find to be true.
• If you keep guns in your home, be careful about sneaking in to try and bust your partner. You might do better to hide a camera or two, or even a tape recorder.

Resources

• eHow article "How to Deal With a Cheating Spouse"