How to Know What Questions Before You Get Married

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So you and your future spouse have talked it through and you know you were meant to be together. Love aside, there are a lot of other factors to consider when getting married and many of them do not become a topic of conversation until they become an point of contention.

Read on to learn what questions you both should be asking each other before tying the knot.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

A comfortable, quiet location
An open mind
Honesty (to yourself and to your partner)
The desire to make the marriage work

Step 1

Chores:
Be sure to talk about who will be responsible for keeping up with things around the house and around the yard. You'd be surprised at how many people look at each other and go "I thought for sure you'd want to cut the grass..."
Step 2

Work:
Depending on how ambitious the two of you are, work hours can become a real issue. If you have the tendency to put in long hours, say so. If your future spouse is going to need to get used to eating late dinners or not eating dinner together at all on some occasions, they need to be aware of this in advance.
Step 3

Stay At Home Parent:
So, have you decided what you would do if you had a child? Who would stay at home? Or would both of you plan on getting back to work as soon as possible after the baby has been born?
Step 4

Sex:
What expectations for sex do you have? How will you cope when you're desire for sex is not the same? How frequently do you expect to have sex?
Step 5

Health and Diet:
What habits affecting each other's help are or will become an issue? Are you hoping the other will quit smoking? Are you a vegetarian and expect the other to consider that in their meal planning?
Step 6

Friends:
What are your needs for maintaining outside relationships? Are there issues with having same-sex friends? How much time weekly would be spent with these friends?
Step 7

Spirituality:
What are your needs/practices when it comes to religion or spirituality? Do you expect your spouse to attend your church? What about expectations for your children's spirituality?

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jakeduncan111 said

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on 7/7/2009 Watch out for marriage fraud!

-Be careful if you are thinking about marrying somone that is an illegal immigrant. It can be very difficult to know if they are marrying you for love or for the green card.
-Never co-sign a credit card with a lover or spouse.
-Avoid mixing any finances or legal issues together with a lover.

Consider yourself warned & be careful!