How to Save a Dying Marriage
It takes two to make a marriage and it takes two to kill one. Little things get between two people, and pretty soon those little things become big things. A marriage just doesn't fall apart, it happens over time, but before it goes completely on life support, preventative steps can be taken.
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If a marriage is dying there must be a reason or reasons. Figure what they are and go from there. Until the disease is pinpointed a cure can't be given, sit down and hash out what is causing love to transform into disdain.
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Be willing to accept fault. It is human nature to point the finger, but as our mothers taught us, there are three more pointing back. Have both partners write down their complaints and exchange them, look at it in private and then prepare to discuss the list. When going over the list decide which is a pet peeve and which one is a serious issue. Eliminate pet peeves or at least learn to live with them. The serious problems can then be addressed and fixed.
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Get away from all responsibilities and focus completely on the relationship. This can be done with a vacation or perhaps a marriage outing with other couples. Regardless, the marriage must take precedent over all other issues.
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Go back and remember the things that once made the marriage great. Surely there was some point when the love burned hot. Seek out old cards, pictures or just plain memories and relish in those moments. Talk about what you loved about your partner then and what is now different. The answer might be easily found.
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Some marriages have gotten so bad that an outside presence is needed. If both partners are willing, seek out a marriage counselor, but for it to work, both individuals must be 100 percent behind it.
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