How to start over

Everyone faces struggles in life. Sometimes these problems can not be fixed. The decision has to be made to pick up the pieces and move on. Starting over may be the best choice.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• strength
• support system
• resources

1. Financial, marriage, employment problems can cause significant stress. Most people fight hard to resolve their problems in an attempt to return to a happier life. Sometimes the damage just cant be repaired.
2. The idea of starting over can cause stress in itself. To decide if the problem can be resolved or if it is time to start over, begin with the question: Is there any possible solutions left?
3. Brain storm every possible solution that has not been tried. Write them all down.
4. Review all solutions you have tried. Write down why you think it failed.
5. Identify all resources available. Search the phone book and internet. Ask your friends about their suggestions. List all that you have tried and the ones you have not.
6. Make calls or contact with resources, including ones you have tried in past to determine if anything has become available. If it based on a relationship, ask partner specifically if anything else can be done.
7. Talk to as many people as possible before you make your final decision.
8. If you decide it is best to start over, make sure you are well informed on what potential outcomes may be. For example, if you are starting over financially, make sure you understand bankruptcy laws, etc.
9. Have a plan on what you are going to do and how. Having a plan and several alternatives will help you feel less helpless and help you from ending up in a similar position down the road. ex. If you are seeking a divorce, make sure you have the financial resources to support divorce and making it on your own.
10. Have a great support system and use it. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Feeling alone or trying to do it alone can be more detrimental to your success than asking for help.
11. Starting over can be frightening but staying in a harmful situation can be damaging. Make the choice that is best for you based on information, resources, support system and a developed plan.

Tips & Warnings

• Community resources can be very helpful (sometimes even free)