How to Let Go of a Relationship

Sometime in every person’s life comes a point where a relationship dies. The hardest thing about a relationship dying is that it is not always a mutual death. For reasons unknown a relationship that you thought was flourishing has lost its appeal to your significant other. You are at a loss for words, your feelings are hurt and there is no closure to your questions as to what happened. So how do you allow yourself to let go of a relationship?

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. First understand that the death of a relationship is not wholly your fault, it is a shared result of many factors and not solely your fault. If the relationship dies it is because one or both parties have grown apart and their aims and goals in life no longer mesh to their significant other.

2. Know that maturing in a relationship is sometimes problematic for one or both parties, personal responsibilities in their home environment, such as a sick parent, a young child, career opportunities, without the assistance and understanding of the partner, takes precedence over the personal one on one relationship. Without cooperation and understanding between the two people involved something has to give in order to survive. Many times it is the personal relationship between a man and woman that breaks apart.

3. Develop within yourself a high self-esteem. If you are not proud of yourself and your own accomplishments, the death of a relationship can be utterly devastating. You must understand that from each hurt feeling, you have learned how to become a stronger individual. Learn from the mistakes that were made during your relationship so that you can defend against the same pitfalls in a future relationship.

4. Try to communicate and discuss if possible with your significant other what the problems are that are tearing the two of you apart. If at all possible try to understand where the other person’s thoughts are stemming from. Your significant other may not have enough trust built up in your current relationship to convey their feelings, goals or problems.

5. Confide in your close friends and family in this time of need. The hurt feelings, the loneliness and the feeling of despair will pass, although it may seem like an eternity, you will heal.

Tips & Warnings

• Seek the companionship of your family, your friends and perhaps your priest. You need to have someone or something to lean on to get you through the loss of a relationship. Lean on your faith even if it feels that God has deserted you He is still standing beside you.

• Do whatever it takes not to fall into a depression. The stress of a depression can actually kill you, you will not be able to accomplish your daily functions, and you will have problems at work and perhaps lash out at those who are trying to stand by you.