How to Spot a Cheating Spouse

Do you suspect your spouse is cheating on you but aren’t sure how to tell? Being cheated on can be one of the worst feelings in the world. There is no reason to have to put up with a cheating spouse. Here are some ways you can spot a cheating spouse.

Things You'll Need

• Private investigator

Instructions

1. Staying out late at night. Your spouse may stay out late at night several nights a week or leave for to go out of town on short notice. When your spouse is away at night, he or she may be unavailable to reach by email or cell phone. This is a sign your spouse may be cheating.

2. Appearance of new items in your home. If your spouse comes home with new items, such as jewelry, candles, or exquisite items that you didn’t purchase together or wouldn’t purchase together, this may be a sign of cheating. These may be gifts given by his or her other interest.

3. Decrease in the level of intimacy. If your spouse is not interested in being intimate with you, whether it is making love or holding hands, this is a warning sign. He or she may push you away when you try to be intimate. Your spouse may say he or she is bored and want to try new positions when making love. This may be a sign of cheating.

4. Reactions change. If your spouse calls you by another name, this may be a sign. Your spouse may be quick to argue with you or won’t look you in the eyes when talking to you–a sure sign of guilt. If you confront your spouse about having an affair and he or she gets very belligerent with you, this may be a sign of cheating.

5. Hire a private investigator. If you have a very strong suspicion that your spouse is cheating on you, hire a private investigator to follow him or her around. The private investigator will follow your spouse and take pictures if necessary. If you find out your spouse is cheating and won’t admit to it, it’s time to end the relationship. If he or she does admit to it, seek counseling before acting out on your emotions. There is a saying, “If it happens once, shame on you. If it happens twice, shame on me.”

Tips & Warnings

• If you are worried your spouse is cheating, talk to a counselor or have marital counseling. He may be cheating or you may have emotional issues you need to work through. Try to save your marriage if possible.

• Don’t accuse your spouse unless you have proof he or she is cheating. Proof can include a private investigator’s report, emails, cell phone messages, or other substantial evidence. If you think your spouse is cheating, hire a private investigator.