How to ask for help

Today, everyone seems overwhelmed. Schedules, jobs, family, money, all causing stress. You are not alone. Here are some ways to ask for help to decrease feeling so overwhelmed.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• computer
• friends, family, neighbors, coworkers

1. It is understandable why most people seem overwhelmed. Money, family, relationships, jobs, schedules all are very demanding. It is important to identify what is biggest stressor, in order to identify where to ask for help.
2. Write down all stressors. Be specific. For example: Don't write lack of time, write lack of time to do bills, or laundry or read a book, etc. You need to understand where you need help the most, in order to ask for help.
3. Pick your top 3 current stressors, where you feel you need help.
4. Identify all possible solutions. What can you do to help yourself or what specifically are you going to ask of others to help you.
5. Identify all possible people who could help you. For example, do you need help with keeping up with lawn care. Could a neighborhood teenage be hired? If it is money, do you have a few people you could ask to borrow a little from each?
6. If you are worried about asking, write down what you want to say. Practice it over and over until you feel more comfortable. Asking for help may be difficult, but can help you in the end.
7. Tell yourself "It is ok to ask for help". You will be no worse off if the answer is no. In addition, people cannot read your mind. You will have to ask for help in order to possibly get what you need.
8. If you go to 1 person and they are unable to help you, go to the next person on your list.
9. Most people are not offended with being asked for something if it is within reason. There is no shame in asking for help. Friends, family, neighbors, etc are human too.
10. Remember success is rarely created by an individual. Most successful people have asked for help or had assistance in some fashion.
11. Here are some articles on specific resources:
    Therapy or mental health issues: http://www.ehow.com/how_2365609_should-be-therapy.html
    http://www.ehow.com/how_2322960_right****-therapy-clinic.html
    
    Financial
    http://www.ehow.com/how_2288374_buisness-personal-credit-card-consolidation.html

Tips & Warnings

• Don't give up. Keep seeking out friends, family, neighbors, coworkers for assistance. search internet for other resources.