How to Be a Good Husband To a Stay At Home Mom

A good husband of a stay at home mom will first and foremost want to get the words out of his brain, that his wife is "staying at home while "I WORK"." When my husband was here and during the time are children were young, I not only gave up the opportunity to continue as a Record Executive, to raise them from birth, I home schooled them for most of their early years. It was well worth it for all of us and I couldn't fathom how miserable my life and our children's would be today without the training and guidance they had educationally, spiritually and socially without it. It is not for everyone and takes enormous strength, passion, creativity and support; which I did not have. Nevertheless, families that go the route of having a dedicated mom who is emotionally available take on the responsibility of caring for their young at a minimum until they are 6, need be commended. It will not work if hubby does not do his job which is way beyond perhaps being the sole bread winner during this period. Here are several sure steps to be a good husband with benefits that will leave her floored and maybe you too, literally. :)

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• to remember she is your/a woman first and you her man
• passion
• respect
• creativity

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   To be a good husband to a stay at home mom gentlemen, is to first reflect everyday that your wife is on loan only part of the day. You don't neglect your bank account by not investing into it. Why then should it be any different your attitude when it comes to investing into your wife to help get the job done of raising your children.

2. Reminding her how beautiful a job she is doing, how appreciative you are of how hard she works everyday and all the other rah rah is obvious. You want to concentrate on unique ways of keeping her excited about you two relating to each other, your relationship and how special she is as your woman, a mother and a friend.

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   The number one question instead of complaining about all the art stuff around the house to her is... "What can "we" (don't forgot that word)" buy or do to obtain or maintain art in your life and help our children benefit from it." I used art to build big bold posters of body parts and other science projects that lined areas of the house. My attitude was our house is a classroom now, if you and guest don't like, leave. It wasn't ugly, but our house no longer looked like a living room from an art gallery either. I was fortunate, I had a caring, family orientated husband just as happy as the kids to come home and see what "new and exciting" lesson was in stored everyday. It is important fellows to show respect and tell her of that respect consistently in front of the children. This will heighten respect of and for her from the children during the time you and her are separated during the day. Don't think that you can't help your wife's stay at home projects become a money making income for the household. Those projects for us, turned into custom posters for other parents in the neighborhood that they requested after seeing them in our house. Matter of fact I got offers to do the same in theirs. Imagine the possibilities if she actually has a natural skill in art, which I still don't. Being a "stay at home" mom, which gentlemen does and will include you if not before, by the time you finish reading this article on how to be a good husband to a stay at home mom is a type of business that should get paid!

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   Okay, she's, "ti yard". You come home, she's in sweats; hair is maybe even wired. Not every woman, but every woman will begin looking even more tired if you come home with ripping your tie off, stating "what's to eat", and exclaiming what a mess the place is as soon as you walk through the door; moreover, imagine adding this attitude with maybe a small peck on the cheek or a half of a hug. I know you're exhausted. So do you think she's any less exhausted after a full day of romp a room and maybe half a night of feedings or night terrors? What is this a competition? No it's a JOB called grown up life that you both vowed to do, together. The following is three, fun tips that involves everyone, yet will benefit mostly you and your lady:

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   The door swings open by your hand. "Dadddddy" from the kids. Wifey can't even get close. Hugs/kisses to them, you know the drill. Wifey, with the look of near death, tears or time to escape look on her face,(caution; this is an extreme case, yet bound to be some day) you say when you see the war zone, "boy you guys had a ball in here today. I imagine you don't have any energy to do anything else." Don't forget the disappointment attitude. What do you think those children are going to say? Right.

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   You say, "Oh good. How 'bout putting some or all this stuff a way so we can do something" Be sincere. If you have more than one rugrat in the house, make it a contest. "First one, who can be first... first one wins... got me? It is easier for "husband" to do this because wifey has been saying and trying to keep them doing it all day. Heck, while they're scrambling around you two could be getting a squeeze a feel or something. Tell her take off your tie for you seductively. Flirt flirt flirt. Do you forget this is your WOMAN?

7. Now of course the house will be way neater, you and the kids could whip out a treat of ice cream, yogurt or whatever and simple read a fun book or something for a few minutes. No videos or TV daddy. That noise may have occurred a few times already during the day. This is an amazing time to cause a chill for EVERYBODY. The best part is the child(ren) will start winding down in which within a couple hours be ready for sleep. "When do I eat?" This doesn't have to be an 5 day event. You figure it out. Just make sure it's not as soon as you walk in the door. Try a piece of fruit or something. It'll be good for your digestion anyway. Besides you can play with the fruit with your wife, use your imagination while the little tikes, if you have two or more, are having their fun cleaning up!

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   Start fantasizing that she's a woman you're dating that happens to have children. How different would you treat her? How much would you help out and what are some of the things you would do in figuring out how to get her in the mood... when you come over to visit? The children would still be there. Yes?

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   Gentlemen, and I've been there did that. Ya know your woman sees you leaving to go to the office looking fly, right? Probably at the least, five days a week: you got conversation from some wide eyed chick and your proper speech, talking er business. Lunch time is game time. Yeah yeah. Do you think for at the least one Saturday if you absolutely can't find strength to do it during the week, which would be best by the way, dress up for your wife? I'm serious. How 'bout coming home, but lord I'm not going to be the one to tell you to take a shower or not first, instead of changing into shorts and your favorite football jersey, school alumni tee or pajamas, how about trying a black or other dark mock and dress slacks or something? She'll be like, where do you think you going? And you'll be like in your bed shortly. You don't want her to be reminded constantly how good you looked all day for everybody else, and every woman who looked upon you and you them, without having to enjoy you too in the sweet and sexy. Sorry fellows, you're gonnnn-a get it back and it will first show up in her saying no. Yes this is part of the noooo. You didn't seriously think only men are visual. You don't seriously believe esteem can't be driven down from lack of it? Are you getting this? Give a girl a break. You might be surprised how quickly she'll return the favor. Want to come home to a lil glamour? Do a little work yourself.

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    You want to be a good husband to a stay at home mom and the both of you reap the benefits, do the steps above at the least. And for another tip on getting her out of her uniform that might be a relaxed one of sweats or jeans, first opportunity you get when someone is on, let's say TV that has a similar shape for instance and has on some knockout sexy look that "you think SHE" would like to play dress up in comes on the scene that you both have your eyes on, try teasing her with something like, "you better not let me come home and see you in something like that!" Don't forget the bedroom eyes. If she's not in as good a form as wifey, even better; for both of you! It's okay. She's your wife.

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    Be proud of your stay at home wife and the sacrifices you both do for her to be able to do her job efficiently.

Tips & Warnings

• After awhile raising baby(babies) will be a type of running joke between the both of you. If you don't understand yet, you will. As long as you don't take LIFE and the stereotyping of it so seriously.
• Relax will you. Have fun. You will only have one chance at this whole thing. Do it, finish it and life can be more wonderful than it was Before you got married. You will have accomplished emotionally and psychologically tasks that people PRAY for. People pray daily for the chance of having or being where you are in your life right now. "Haters'" will try to find ways to make you feel you're losing out. Do understand that the first one to talk against your choices of lifestyle as a man, be it a man or a woman is the same one that secretly is saying, "I wish I coulda woulda." Blessings.
• None of the above tips are going to work if you are not giving it to her, outside of the bed. Good sex, relating, sharing and orgasms are made away from the physical act. Lay down with her in things that you do and say and communication, respect, understanding and the sexuality of both of you will grow strong and stay firm. You've got to play it to be in it.

Resources

• How to Make Money While Homeschooling

[uttie]

on 8/21/2008 I was at home with my 3 children for years and went through many of the same struggles - I can feel the emotions rising again that surfaced during the struggles of that time period.

This info is sooooo important for this group of men to understand. MEN: Ask the questions if you get lost in the whirl wind!

[contentguru]

on 7/16/2008 great tips..http://www.depression-guide.com/marriage/index.htm

[Desula]

on 7/15/2008 This is wonderful information, all husbands looking to show their wives appreciation could benefit from this.

[Addonis]

on 7/14/2008 what can I say, 5 stars.

[Hapworth]

on 7/14/2008 Great tips.