How to Diagnose Fear of Intimacy

Intimacy in a marriage relationship is of critical importance. It's the bond that develops and matures your relationship so that you can continue to flourish in your love through the years. Once you recognize the importance of intimacy, you can then take the necessary steps toward keeping it, or in some cases, getting it back.

Instructions

1. Recognize how your spouse has disappointed you in the past. It is inevitable that we hurt the ones we love because we are imperfect beings, and that pain can cause us to keep our distance. If you don't deal with each offense and forgive her, over time those hurts can turn into barriers that separate you and prevent the intimacy you once enjoyed.

2. Examine the motives in your attitude and communication toward your spouse. If your tone and attitude drips with accusation, think about what you are really saying and what he is hearing from you. No one wants to be close to someone who makes them feel guilty. Think the best of your husband, and you'll probably find that you were right.

3. Admit that you have weaknesses that you need to work on. Covering up your faults will only cause a greater gap between you and your wife. Offer apologies when you sense you offended her. The intimacy between you will grow when she sees that you can confess your weakness and then try to be better.

4. Refrain from continually arguing with your spouse and questioning his decisions. He will hear it as an insult and it will begin to wear him down. He will sense he has lost your respect, and the intimacy of your relationship will begin to fade. Make a conscious decision to focus on your spouse's strengths, and watch your sexual relationship flourish.