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Step 1
Communicate about the real issue that is bringing conflict between you two. Too many times people bicker about a small issue and dodge the elephant in the room.
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Step 2
Refrain from yelling. Nothing can destroy a civil debate more than two people competing for volume.
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Step 3
Write a letter to your friend stating all of your issues with him. Sometimes it is easier to say on paper what cannot be said aloud.
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Step 4
Email your friend, instead, and tell her what the issues are. You're speaking to a friend, so it's okay to be a little informal but make sure you get to the point.
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Step 5
Avoid involving other people, who have nothing to do with the conflict. If your buddy has made you mad, asking your girlfriend to tell him that you're mad and why you're mad is counterproductive. If you're the person who is mad, the only person who will fully understand and be able to speak on your behalf is you.
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Step 6
Listen when the other person speaks, and wait for your friend to finish completing what she has to say. If you are concentrating on what you have to say in response to her comments, there's a good chance that you haven't heard what the other person said.
