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Step 1
Keep a low profile with your Ex and your Friend. If you are not over your Ex, there is no sense in spending inordinate amounts of time with your Ex and his new squeeze. Why rub salt in the wound? Seeing your Ex and your friend hanging all over each other will not help the healing process. Nothing they do can help in this case. If they behave insensitively towards you, it will only make you more angry and frustrated. But if they bend over backwards to be sensitive and accommodating, it will only make the situation more difficult. There is nothing worse than feeling like an object of pity.
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Step 2
At the same time, don’t completely burn bridges right away with your Ex and your FriendWith my friends, we agreed never to let guys come between us. We promised that no matter what happened we would be there for each other. You can’t choose who you fall in love with. While it may be tempting to lash out at Ex or the dating friend, nothing can be accomplished from this (no matter how justified your grievances may be). Lashing out at your Ex or the dating friend might make you look like a sore loser. On the other hand, handling the situation with class and dignity will do wonders for your self-confidence. And it will leave a lasting impression on your Ex and the dating friend.
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Step 3
Expand your social circles.From personal experience, I’ve learned that what you focus on expands. The more time you spend dwelling on your Ex and your friend, the bigger the problem will seem. Take the focus off your problems by putting yourself back out there. Make new friends. Join groups with people who share similar interests. In the process you may even find new people you would rather date!When you make new friends, your spirits will lift, and your confidence will return. This will go a long way in helping you get over your Ex and your friend. Your new air of confidence will make you more attractive for future dating!
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Step 4
Do whatever it takes to get over your Ex, even if it means breaking off the friendship.In most cases, it is better to remain friendly. However, in extreme cases you may be justified in breaking off the friendship with your Ex and the dating friend. For example, if your friend had knowingly gone after your ex, if your ex had gone after your friend while you were together, or if they had cheated on you, it may take more than a simple shrug of the shoulders to heal all wounds. You owe it to yourself to do whatever it takes to heal from this experience.
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Step 5
Have faith that everything happens for a reason.This is so much easier said than done. Yet I really believe in letting things be as they are. It is not up to us to understand why things work out the way they do. This applies in dating as well as other areas of life. It is more important that you are able to learn and take something away from every experience. If you believe that everything happens for a reason, you can rest assured that something will work out when you least expect it.
