How to Have success in Marriage as a Christian

How to maintain and live out a successful marriage with God first in your lives.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• A Bible
• Note pad
• Pen or Pencil

1. 
   An Everlasting Marriage

   Marriage is ordained by God and he is the illustrator of prayer. We as married Christians, should always pray together. The man of the house should lead his spouse or family in prayer. Prayer can take place any time of the day, and when ever is necessary. Prayer helps bond the family into a whole as one. If you have a child/children, the child/children should always be apart of prayer time. You should also include in a family bible study, it keeps your family succeeding. Teach your child/children how to pray for themselves. Listen to your child's/children's thoughts about life. It is good for your child's/children's intellect. Genesis 3:1-7; Psalm 4:1-8; Matt. 6:5-15, 7:7-11, 21:22; Mark 10:14

2. 
   Attend church and here from God.

   Married couples should take out the time, that is needed for church attendance. It gives you the understanding of Christian family living. That is something we need in todays' marriages; an understanding on how to deal with each other's personality, how to stay submitted, and committed. Attending church, as well as being active in a ministry, shows submission in a marriage. Even attending marriage retreats every now and then, can help your marriage in every area of life. Church attendance is like a counseling session that is free of no charge. Attending church together keeps you and your spouse knowing that it's better to do things together, verses doing things separate. That also goes for any decisions you make or have chosen to make in life. Attending church together, will teach you how to honor and compromise with one another decisions, and ways of doing things. You must know, that every person has their way of doing things. John 4:21-24; 1Corinthians 13:4-8

3. 
   Including your children in planned vacation trips.

   When it comes to finances, you should not boast over who makes the most money. Money is to be as one, what's yours is your spouse and vice versa. In handling money, whom ever is better at managing finances should be the one responsible for paying the bills. If you have a child/children, it is important to teach the child/children how to value money as well as valuing family life. When planning family outings, plan to include your child/children. It is good to plan family vacations out of the state you live in, at least once a year or every so often. If there is some where you desire to go and can't take your child/children; find your child/children the best sitter you can think of. It is good to ask your relatives about keeping your child/children first, because it helps in saving money. Matthew 6:19-21

4. Your job/business is a place to go in order to provide for your family. When you're at work and is away from your family, the fact of being married should never leave your mind. The holy spirit is a comforter, that will direct your thoughts as you conduct your job. There are certain jobs that can actually hinder the holy spirit. Be mindful of your job, and do not let your position become of any negative affect toward your marriage. People at work can become a hindrance to you while on your job. Learn how to guard what goes through your eyes, ears, and what comes out of your mouth. Remember the unexpected is always going to try to come against you, while you're at work. That is whether you're working with men or women. Keep before you that the holy spirit is a guider, and the spirit shall be present in you when you are at work. Psalm 119:33-42; Proverbs 5:15-21, 19:22; 1Corinthians 6:18-20

5. 
   The immediate family with their relatives

   Your family outside of the immediate family, aren't suppose to be decision makers in your marriage. Keep them on the outer court of your marriage; whether it's your mother, father, brother, sister, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. Remember the marriage should be strictly guided with the directions that God has given to you. Give your non-immediate family limitations on what they can and cannot do, and say referencing your marriage. You should love your outside family, just the way God loves them. If your outside family need assistance in any way, make sure you and your spouse come to an agreement before helping. You do want the marriage to succeed when making Godly decisions, which are right. Psalms 25:5, 73:24; Matthew 10:32-38; Romans 12:9-21

6. Your friends are to be chosen wisely. As a married couple in Christ Jesus, choose friends that are married and are also in Christ Jesus. If you have friends that are married, but aren't in Christ Jesus, you should spend very little time around them. It keeps you from being driven away from God's word and his ways of doing things. Limit your marriage to bringing in lots of single Christian friends. Remember single Christians think and do things totally different from married Christians. 2Corinthians 6:14-17

7. Your goals and your works should be of the Lord. You have a goal to hold your marriage together, by loving your significant other forever do you part. Work at and do things that will express the love you have for one another, it sustains your marriage. Like right before getting intimate, get one another over excited by adding that touch of foreplay. Kiss and touch in places your spouse will never imagined you doing, it helps during foreplay. You should have an extraordinary sexual way of doing things, when it comes to getting intimate. Keep Jesus in mind, because he wants you to be attractive and turned on by your spouse. Take pride in keeping your spouse turned on by looking your best, it is a way to arouse your spouse. Add in your natural abilities with the holy spirit on what kind of foreplay to do. There are many different things you can add into your foreplay. Like buying things, that shall motivate your mood toward a more desirable intimacy. It's both of your decisions, on what things and ideas you will want to bring into your intimacy. Enhance your sexual performance, by using a substance that agrees with your body, it helps in long lasting intimacy. Proverbs 16:3; 1Corinthians 7:3-5, 7:33

8. 
   Plan a romantic travel trip.

   Add in that extra touch of romance to your marriage, by getting away from your kids every now and then. Planning romantic travel trips help, and it allows you to spend that quality time with one another. The travel trip should be based on your finances. Purchasing unexpected gifts for one another helps. When your spouse is least expected, order a limo and make a special engagement date out at the finest restaurant. Take the time out of your busy schedule to plan a candle light dinner at home, with a bottle of wine of your choice, and drink in moderation. Keep in mind, the kids should not be present. Upgrade your wedding rings and renew your vows upon certain anniversaries. Remember to always work on doing things together, setting aside the time you will have spent with your child/children, if you have any. 1Corinthians 7:29-31

9. Bless your marriage daily, sanctify it, put that extra touch of anointing upon it. Work on building your characters based on love, trust, honesty, happiness, peace, encouragement, and most of all fearing GOD. These things keep the marriage bond in a great assurance, of knowing that GOD is in charge. Remember to always pray and study your bible, in order to bring about great success in your marriage. It will guide you through any situation you could be thinking, is difficult for you to conquer. Life has many challenges that are worked out through putting God first. Make it your life to keep God first! Proverbs 16:3; Matthew 10:34-39; 1Corinthians 13:13; Hebrews 11:13-16

Tips & Warnings

• Invite other married Christian couples on your dinner engagements and travel trips. It helps in fellowshipping with other couples.
• Have surprise gatherings at your home for your spouse, by including in your family and friends.
• Be willing to congratulate and thank your spouse for doing the little things in your marriage. It adds the encouraged thoughts of love that one another's needs.
• Men, try to keep yourselves well groomed; and women, do things that will enhance your beauty.
• In your marriage, do not let weight or size, become an issue between you and your spouse. You should discuss that and compromise the issue.
• Keep your relatives, married couples, single people, and your co-workers out of your marriage disagreements; it can cause the wrong information to get out.
• Do not invite other people in your sexual marriage relationship, because it can bring about an upset(dislike) concerning one or the other performance. The thing is that, you are outside of the boundaries of God.
• I do not recommend pornography videos, because most of them promote having sex with more than one person; during the same sexual love affair. That is not guarding your eyes from seeing ungodly things.
• Do not accuse your spouse of having an affair without actual evidence. It can cause a separation.
• Don't include a single Christian person in your engagements or travel, it can cause problems.
• Do not build a relationship with a co-worker of the opposite sex, outside of the work environment. The relationship will eventually come between you and your spouse.
• Do not have a friend of the opposite sex, that is not a friend of your spouse.

[PBreech]

on 11/12/2009 So many golden nuggets in this article and lesson to help keep a marriage strong.

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[ebnickiea]

on 9/3/2008 wonderful article-thank you for sharing this with us

[1stSgtPinkerton]

on 8/3/2008 My fiance just read your article. I've been given orders to watch for more of your advise and share them with her. She gives you 5 Stars too.

[1stSgtPinkerton]

on 8/3/2008 An eye singe to the glory of the Lord and his ordainment of marriage...Mam, if YOU ran for president, I'd vote for you. Just the kind of advise and "revelation" this world needs. I do hope to read more about marriage from you in the future. 5 bright stars!!!