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Step 1
Even though your doctor says you are physically ready to start having sex again, it may not mean that you are emotionally ready. Your energy could be spent or you might just have some reservations about using that part of your body again after childbirth. It is okay to wait until you feel ready and husbands should support your choice to wait. Just consider that it is better to wait and have good sex than to have bad sex now that might put you off even longer.
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Step 2
Pretend it is your first time all over again. Take it slow with lots of foreplay, caressing, massage and snuggling. Even if it doesn't lead to sex this time, it will help to get you closer to the necessary mental state. Enjoy the new intimacy and create the mood. For, example, plan a romantic dinner beforehand.
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Step 3
It may be difficult to find the time to have sex with a new baby and you will have to be creative. Naptime is the best time for some one-on-one action. Remember, the bed is not the only place in the house where you can have sex.
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Step 4
Your vagina may be drier than usual until your hormones are back in balance, so plan to lube up before intercourse, whether it be with KY Jelly or saliva. This will make for a much more pleasant experience for both participants. Be careful not to force penetration. You may be more sensitive than before, so ease into it.
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Step 5
Try different positions until you find one that is most comfortable for you. Especially if you've had an episiotomy, the missionary position may be uncomfortable. Try side-lying or woman-on-top position.
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Step 6
The breasts can be a sensitive area for women after childbirth, especially if you are nursing. Your nipples may be sore and your breasts are fuller and may be leaking milk when you are aroused. Ways to prevent leaking may be to avoid positions that apply pressure to the breasts and to nurse before lovemaking. Additionally, if you don't want your breasts fondled at all yet, communicate that wish. Remember, nursing is only temporary.
