How to Prevent Middle Child Syndrome
Do you have three or more children? If you do, you are probably familiar with middle child syndrome. Middle child syndrome is when the child’s birth order affects the way he or she behaves, usually acting out or misbehaving. Here are some ideas on how to prevent middle child syndrome.
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Be aware of middle child syndrome. It does exist, but can also be avoided by taking charge and changing family dynamics. The first step is to know that it exists and the second step is to prevent it before it happens.
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Love each child uniquely. Treasure each child. When he is trying to be affectionate, don’t push him away. Soak up all the hugs and kisses that are given to you.
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Don’t make comparisons. Don’t ever tell the middle child you wish she was more like the older or younger sibling. Understand that each child is unique and has her own special gifts and talents. Each child has a different personality and may require different parenting and teaching methods. By making comparisons, the child will feel unappreciated, worthless and may feel she is not loved.
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Avoid playing favorites. Often, a parent will develop a closer relationship with one child more than the other children. They may have more things in common. They may have gone through a difficult time together which caused them to draw closer. Strive to have a special relationship with each one. Be sure to have one on one time with each child. Mommy and child or Daddy and child dates are a good way to develop this special relationship.
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Take an interest in your child’s hobbies and activities. If your child has an interest in playing sports, give him your support. Practice with him and attend games regularly. Get involved in his or her activities. Show your child that you care about what he enjoys and does.
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Praise your child on a regular basis. Compliment him or her when a job is well done. Point out the good qualities about your child. Do this with each child.
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Be patient and love her. Times may get stressful. Often times, if a child feels he or she is being ignored, bad behavior may result. Give your child lots of attention and do not leave him or her out. Be patient. Give each child lots of love accompanied by hugs and kisses. Remember, the goal is to raise confident, healthy and happy children. Stay focused on that goal.
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Tips & Warnings
Be aware of middle child syndrome and have the desire to prevent it. Changing family dynamics can eliminate this behavior.
Do not play favorites with any child. Each child should feel loved in his or her own special way.
