How to Show TLC to Your Spouse

Every person in a relationship, especially among married couples, desires Tender Loving Care (TLC) from their significant other at all times. It is this secret formula that keeps the bond stronger between two people in love and makes their everyday life more meaningful. Demanding this from your partner/spouse yields resentment and half-hearted obedience. It is when you willingly decide to make it a daily habit to show your love and care in a tender manner towards your spouse that brings productive results to your relationship and marriage. There are many ways to do it but let me just point out few of them. Here’s how:

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

1. Always volunteer to give a back massage, not only when your spouse asks for it, and do it effectively. Doing this helps your partner relax tired muscles, especially after a long day at work. Moreover, this is an excellent time to bond with him/her.
2. Cook for your spouse. There’s no better way to get closer to your partner’s heart than to cook a meal for him/her that he/she likes and make him/her special. Try out new recipes which you love to share with him/her.
3. When your spouse is obviously having a bad day, be considerate and loving enough by keeping your mouth shut. When your partner wants to talk, he/she will ask you to listen. Be willing to hear his/her sentiments and give your encouragement and support.
4. Avoid destructive criticism each time you see flaws in your partner’s character or attitude. Remember, no one is perfect and there’s no such thing as perfect couples. Say loving words only and words that build respect and trust. If you really need to point out some flaws you see in your partner, pray for the perfect timing and ask for guidance how to say it best without inflicting pain.
5. Be considerate to your spouse’s unique personality. If he/she wants to do something that doesn’t interest you, make up your mind to do it anyway and enjoy it. This demonstrates your willingness to compromise and love what he/she loves.
6. Take care of your spouse. You can do this by making sure he/she eats healthy and gets enough rest everyday. Pay attention to his/her habits and suggest ways to improve them if necessary.
7. Say “I love you” plenty of times everyday and mean it. Likewise, give your spouse plenty of hugs and kisses every moment you can find. Touch your partner lovingly and look into his/her eyes when he/she wants to communicate.
8. Lastly, look for more ways to show how much you can show your love and care towards your spouse. Pay attention to what makes him/her happy and feel important. It takes patience and willingness to do this but the rewards are worth it. You will see a happier partner and earn a stronger relationship with your spouse.