Things You'll Need:
- A loving heart
- a listening ear
- time
- a teen to praise
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Step 1
The first step to praising your teen is thinking of things to say.
Especially if relations are strained between your teen and yourself finding a place to start can be really tough, but give yourself some credit, it can be scarey to try a new thing and if your teens are a little defiant you might think that they will ridicule your efforts.
So armour yourself with a little courage and think of a few good things that you can say about your teen. -
Step 2
This can be a little tougher. find a time that you can spend with your teen doing nothing to practice your new uplifting language, go out for icecream, during rides to events or work, while sharing a meal.
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Step 3
Even if you use the time to talk about school, friends , privelidges ect, stickin' em with a bit of honey will always get you farther. Try something like this. " I have always been able to count on you to be in on time. Your reliability is something that I like and respect about you, but lately you have been late and this worries me. I hope I get to see more of the reliability that I have learned to count on. I am going to trust you to be on time from now on because I know I can trust you."
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Step 4
Focus on your optimism about your child and not your worry. Kids know we worry about them in a sideways kind of way and if you nag them about worry your worst fears may come true as your children avoid lecrures and reprisals it is better to tell them how wonderful they are and stick in a little warning about thier behaviors.
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Step 5
Developing a level of trust and comunnication between you and your teen is essencial for the survival of your teen in the world today, and the enormous amount of confidence they are going to need to make in todays job market adds extra urgence for you to be a leaning post for your teen where they know YOU, if no one else can see them and all the good and wonderful things they are regardless of behavior.
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Step 6
so tell you crazy, zany, confused, grumpy,hungry , beautiful and inventive courage young man or woman how great they are and how much they enrich your life ten times today.
