How to Make Small Talk at a Bar
Forget the old cliched "Come here often?" You really can make intelligent small talk in a bar. Here's how.
- Difficulty:
- Easy
Instructions
Things You'll Need
- Books On Conversation Tips
- Fresh-cut Flowers
- Boxes Of Chocolates
- Breath Mints
- Concert Tickets
- Dinner Reservations
- Movie Tickets
- Bike Helmets
- Mountain Bikes
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Make eye contact and smile. This makes you approachable.
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Use an opening line such as, "What are you drinking?"
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Pay the person a sincere compliment. True flattery will get you everywhere.
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Try to find a common ground between you.
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Discuss events in the news, places to eat, music or movies you both like. Avoid politics, religion, or other heavy topics.
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Encourage the other person to talk about what interests him or her - work, car or hobbies are good places to start.
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Make up a hypothetical question if the conversation begins to lag: What would you change if you were designing humans? What would you do if you won the lottery?
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Tips & Warnings
Stay away from pickup lines, particularly, "I am very, very lonely, and I was wonderin' ... " and "Can I see your tan lines?"
Avoid discussing religion, crime, former relationships, and politics.
Don't put yourself - or anyone else - down.
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Comments
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Jan 23, 2006
Women are so used to being thrown one-liners and cleaver phrases, we've heard them all. They don't make you look witty or charming, they make you look phony, childish and desperate; definitely not someone we think is worth spending time with. Approach a women using class, manners and treat her with respect and dignity. You'll have her attention. Trying to be the cool guy will give the impression you're just looking for a fling or looking to score just like all the others. Attract her with respect and intelligence and she'll be impressed. You'll easily find yourself above all the sleazy one-liner guys, I promise. -
Jan 23, 2006
Women are so used to being thrown one-liners and cleaver phrases, we've heard them all. They don't make you look witty or charming, they make you look phony, childish and desperate; definitely not someone we think is worth spending time with. Approach a women using class, manners and treat her with respect and dignity. You'll have her attention. Trying to be the cool guy will give the impression you're just looking for a fling or looking to score just like all the others. Attract her with respect and intelligence and she'll be impressed. You'll easily find yourself above all the sleazy one-liner guys, I promise.
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Dec 16, 2005
The path to a women's heart is through the funny bone. Find a smoker, ask for a light, and purposely light the filter end, and admit your mistake with a laugh. It opens up the door for further conversation.
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Dec 16, 2005
The path to a women's heart is through the funny bone. Find a smoker, ask for a light, and purposely light the filter end, and admit your mistake with a laugh. It opens up the door for further conversation.
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Nov 22, 2005
Walk up to her if you are interested, look at her and say "What's your name?" She will know from the start that you are interested, but not so interested that you don't even care about her name. She will then (hopefully) tell you her name and ask for yours. The ice is broken, ask her something sensible and keep the questions going. Be discreet with your opinion, it makes you seem more mysterious and interesting; two qualities that attract women. But to the point, you will seem confident and secure.
