How to Make Small Talk at a Bar

Forget the old cliched "Come here often?" You really can make intelligent small talk in a bar. Here's how.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Books On Conversation Tips
• Fresh-cut Flowers
• Boxes Of Chocolates
• Breath Mints
• Concert Tickets
• Dinner Reservations
• Movie Tickets
• Bike Helmets
• Mountain Bikes

1. Make eye contact and smile. This makes you approachable.

2. Use an opening line such as, "What are you drinking?"

3. Pay the person a sincere compliment. True flattery will get you everywhere.

4. Try to find a common ground between you.

5. Discuss events in the news, places to eat, music or movies you both like. Avoid politics, religion, or other heavy topics.

6. Encourage the other person to talk about what interests him or her - work, car or hobbies are good places to start.

7. Make up a hypothetical question if the conversation begins to lag: What would you change if you were designing humans? What would you do if you won the lottery?

Tips & Warnings

• Stay away from pickup lines, particularly, "I am very, very lonely, and I was wonderin' ... " and "Can I see your tan lines?"
• Avoid discussing religion, crime, former relationships, and politics.
• Don't put yourself - or anyone else - down.

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on 1/30/2009 good ideas.- zemzem.ecrater.com

on 1/23/2006 Women are so used to being thrown one-liners and cleaver phrases, we've heard them all. They don't make you look witty or charming, they make you look phony, childish and desperate; definitely not someone we think is worth spending time with.

Approach a women using class, manners and treat her with respect and dignity. You'll have her attention. Trying to be the cool guy will give the impression you're just looking for a fling or looking to score just like all the others. Attract her with respect and intelligence and she'll be impressed. You'll easily find yourself above all the sleazy one-liner guys, I promise.

on 12/16/2005 The path to a women's heart is through the funny bone. Find a smoker, ask for a light, and purposely light the filter end, and admit your mistake with a laugh. It opens up the door for further conversation.

on 11/22/2005 If I am standing in a noisy bar and I see a girl I like, and I see her looking back at me, but both of us are too shy to make the first move, what I do is I make my mouth look like I am saying something with a slight nod of the head even though no sound is coming out my mouth. When she comes over to hear what I am saying, I smile and say "Sorry it wasn't important, but anyway, my name is Frank." Then I hold out my hand to shake hers; it has worked every time.

on 11/22/2005 Even if you don't smoke, this is a great way to make conversation with someone in a bar. If they give you a cigarette, you can continue the conversation by saying "Thanks" and introducing yourself.