This Season
 

How to Make Small Talk at a Bar

Forget the old cliched "Come here often?" You really can make intelligent small talk in a bar. Here's how.

Related Searches:
    Difficulty:
    Easy

    Instructions

    Things You'll Need

    • Books On Conversation Tips
    • Fresh-cut Flowers
    • Boxes Of Chocolates
    • Breath Mints
    • Concert Tickets
    • Dinner Reservations
    • Movie Tickets
    • Bike Helmets
    • Mountain Bikes
      • 1

        Make eye contact and smile. This makes you approachable.

      • 2

        Use an opening line such as, "What are you drinking?"

      • 3

        Pay the person a sincere compliment. True flattery will get you everywhere.

      • 4

        Try to find a common ground between you.

      • 5

        Discuss events in the news, places to eat, music or movies you both like. Avoid politics, religion, or other heavy topics.

      • 6

        Encourage the other person to talk about what interests him or her - work, car or hobbies are good places to start.

      • 7

        Make up a hypothetical question if the conversation begins to lag: What would you change if you were designing humans? What would you do if you won the lottery?

    Tips & Warnings

    • Stay away from pickup lines, particularly, "I am very, very lonely, and I was wonderin' ... " and "Can I see your tan lines?"

    • Avoid discussing religion, crime, former relationships, and politics.

    • Don't put yourself - or anyone else - down.

    Related Searches

    Read Next:

    Comments

    • Jan 23, 2006
      Women are so used to being thrown one-liners and cleaver phrases, we've heard them all. They don't make you look witty or charming, they make you look phony, childish and desperate; definitely not someone we think is worth spending time with. Approach a women using class, manners and treat her with respect and dignity. You'll have her attention. Trying to be the cool guy will give the impression you're just looking for a fling or looking to score just like all the others. Attract her with respect and intelligence and she'll be impressed. You'll easily find yourself above all the sleazy one-liner guys, I promise.
    • Jan 23, 2006
      Women are so used to being thrown one-liners and cleaver phrases, we've heard them all. They don't make you look witty or charming, they make you look phony, childish and desperate; definitely not someone we think is worth spending time with. Approach a women using class, manners and treat her with respect and dignity. You'll have her attention. Trying to be the cool guy will give the impression you're just looking for a fling or looking to score just like all the others. Attract her with respect and intelligence and she'll be impressed. You'll easily find yourself above all the sleazy one-liner guys, I promise.
    • Dec 16, 2005
      The path to a women's heart is through the funny bone. Find a smoker, ask for a light, and purposely light the filter end, and admit your mistake with a laugh. It opens up the door for further conversation.
    • Dec 16, 2005
      The path to a women's heart is through the funny bone. Find a smoker, ask for a light, and purposely light the filter end, and admit your mistake with a laugh. It opens up the door for further conversation.
    • Nov 22, 2005
      Walk up to her if you are interested, look at her and say "What's your name?" She will know from the start that you are interested, but not so interested that you don't even care about her name. She will then (hopefully) tell you her name and ask for yours. The ice is broken, ask her something sensible and keep the questions going. Be discreet with your opinion, it makes you seem more mysterious and interesting; two qualities that attract women. But to the point, you will seem confident and secure.

    You May Also Like

    • How to Talk to a Beautiful Woman

      Some men find the idea of talking to a beautiful woman uncomfortable, even terrifying. This could be because he is self-conscious, nervous...

    • How to Talk to a Girl at a Bar

      On a Friday or Saturday night, bars are teeming with people who are out to have fun with their friends and maybe...

    • How to Make Small Talk at a Bar

      Making small talk at a bar can strike up a conversation and form friendships. Begin with neutral topics like sports when making...

    • How to Make Small Talk With a Girl

      You spot her across the room. Shining hair, bright eyes and a pretty smile. You want to start a conversation, but all...

    • Things to Talk About With a Girl

      Women are diverse and eclectic, just like men, and there's no one single topic guaranteed to pique their interest. The trick to...

    • How to Talk to Girls at Bars

      Girls enjoy a drink as much as you do, making bars a good place to meet them. Discover the basics of talking...

    • What to Talk to a Girl About on the First Date

      Congratulations are in order. After many weeks of observation, indecision and anxiety, you have finally found the courage to ask that beautiful...

    • How to Make Small Talk at a Party

      At a party, you are expected to make small talk with other guests. A party is not the place to argue a...

    • How to Meet Girls in a Bar

      Separate yourself from your friends. When you are lumped together with your other friends, guys or girls, the women you are trying...

    • How to Attract Women & What to Say

      Women are often attracted to men who have status, money and security, but men can improve their chances by being themselves and...

    • How to Talk to a Girl on the Phone

      Talking to a girl on the phone is a good skill in the dating world, but text messages can be less awkward...

    • How to Make Small Talk

      Small talk can be a big challenge, but a little preparation and confidence is all you need. As a skilled small talker...

    • How to Meet Guys at Bars

      While some girls to go a bar to have fun with friends and relax after a hard work week, others go to...

    • How to Talk to Girls on the Street

      There's only 2 reasons you might have never thought about meeting an attractive woman in the street. 1) You're lying that you...

    • How to Get a Job at a Bar

      Getting a job at a bar can be fun and very profitable. The main source of income for a bartender is the...

    • How to Talk to Women

      Does the passing of an attractive woman make your heart beat and your nerves frazzle? As tongue-tied as it can make you,...

    • How to Stock a Small Bar

      Not everyone can stock a large wet bar at home. Large bars can include expensive and obscure brands of liquor that are...

    • How to talk to Girls without fear

      Seeing a girl you like can make your palms sweaty and your heart flutter. With all of these biological reactions occupying your...

    • What to Say to a Woman You Love

      If you dearly love a woman in your life, you can say things to her to express that love. For many men,...

    Follow eHow

    Related Ads