How to Adjust to the Empty Nest

Most parents experience an empty nest at some time. Whether your child is going off to college, getting married or just moving out, it may be time to let go. With your child out of the house, you may have feelings of sadness or loneliness. Although those feelings are normal, there are steps to take to ease the transition and adjust to an empty nest.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Realize it was your goal. One of the main goals of parenting is to raise an independent person who succeeds in the world. Part of that means watching your child go off into the world. Remind yourself it's a good thing your child is going forward.
2. Be proud of your child's achievements, whether she's getting her own place, getting married or joining the military. Keep in mind what you also accomplished and be proud of raising a self-sufficient child who's becoming a productive adult. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done.
3. Reconnect with a spouse or old friends. Raising children is time consuming. When children move out, your time should free up. Call old friends you haven't seen in a while. Spend more time with your spouse. Enjoy the free time before grandchildren arrive.
4. Make it about you. For 18 years or more, you've likely made sacrifices as most parents do. Consider your personal and career goals. Make a list of things you want to accomplish and places you want to visit. Come up with a plan to achieve your own dreams.
5. Allow yourself time to feel sad. It may take a while to adjust to an empty nest. Talking with other parents who are dealing with an empty nest may help. Cry a little if you need to.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't make your child feel guilty. Leaving home is an exciting time for a young adult. Don't bring your child down or ruin the time with your own feelings.