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Step 1
Talk to a child that is mature enough to understand that a new baby is coming. Allow the child to participate in selecting clothing, equipment and decor for the baby. Ask the child for input in appropriate areas.
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Step 2
Visit the bookstore or library and look for books on how to be a "big sister" or "big brother." Purchase or borrow one or two titles and make them regular reading material during the months prior to the new baby's arrival.
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Step 3
Purchase a baby doll for a child aged two to six years. Look for a doll that includes a bottle, pacifier, blanket, bib and other paraphernalia. Present the doll to the child the first time he comes to visit the new baby.
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Step 4
Encourage the child to care for her "new baby" as the new sibling's needs are met. Have the child feed her baby when the new sibling is feeding or have her rock her baby when the new sibling is being rocked.
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Step 5
Include the child in the care of the new baby. Appeal to the older child's desire to be involved and let him hold or feed the new baby (with supervision) or "read or tell" the baby a story.
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Step 6
Let the child know that her needs remain important to the entire household by arranging periods of undivided attention. Treat the child to an afternoon out, a special "movie" evening or quiet time playing a game. Create situations where the new infant can be "put on hold" so that the older sibling can be given priority.
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Step 7
Be patient with the older child, who may display signs of jealousy, anger or regression. Assure the child as much as possible and help her work through her feelings.
