How to get a Lesbian Girlfriend
Finding a suitable partner can be hard for many people. Everything from knowing where to meet potential suitors to preparing for that first date can be nerve-wrecking. For people not in the heterosexual majority, finding a suitable partner can be even more daunting. Finding a lesbian girlfriend can be hard, especially in smaller cities and suburban areas. Follow some steps to help you get a lesbian girlfriend.
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Instructions
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Take some time to really assess what you want out of a girlfriend. Get a piece of paper and split it down the middle on one side write external and the other write internal. Write a list of internal qualities you want out of a partner and a list of external qualities you want out of a partner.
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Compare the sides of the list and try to make the internal quality list a bit longer than the external list. Realize that finding someone to fit into your physical image of a mate will be easier to fulfill than finding someone who has the same internal energy that you do.
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Ask friends if they have any single available friends that you might find as potential suitors. Friends often share friends with similar interests and qualities and this can be a great way to narrow down choices. Try a few blind dates with friend set-ups and test the dating waters this way.
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Visit local gay and lesbian bars to find other potential mates. If you live in a suburban area or rural area think about making a trip to the nearest city center and spending a couple of days to check out the gay/lesbian scene. Cruise bars or better yet, lesbian singles meetings to help you to meet new viable partners.
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Sign up to attend a lesbian cruise or lesbian health retreat, anything that peaks your interest that helps single lesbian women to gather in one area for a common interest. Book clubs, feminism groups or art forums are great places to meet other lesbians.
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Check online dating resources to help you to narrow down your search for a lesbian girlfriend. Be very cautious and smart about your choices online but open minded. Online dating services can be extremely helpful for lesbians searching for dates or partners.
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Tips & Warnings
Try searching out your local GLBT community center and inquiring about known lesbian friendly hangouts and bars.
Get involved in community initiatives for gay and lesbian rights as this is often a very good place to meet single lesbian women or at least new lesbian friends.
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The list is to open u to situations to find a girl NOT a requirements list. If u use it to judge your target you're going to be (a) disappointed and (b) not attractive to the girl u want (she can put herself down without u- she doesn't need another "fixer" in her life). How to find a girl? Relax. Be happy with yourself. Make space in your life (closet, parking, room, bed etc) so she can fill it. If you're happy she'll come to you. If you're lonely you'll only attract other lonely people (and they won't grow with you). Bars? Ha! That's for gay men, girls with commitments who want a fling and feel sexy, and for fun/complaining with friends. Go for shopping malls, libraries, birthday parties, and internet. That being said bars/clubs CAN be effective but only if they are expensive.
